Looking for any tips/experience you’ve had as a person with ADHD/AuDHD struggling as a people manager. I was an independent contributor & high performer, so got routed into a management position. After about 2 years of managing other Business Analysts, I got an additional team of hourly employees and I feel like I’m just keeping my head above water. My mgmt. team knows that my goals are not to manage people & I’m not happy or thriving, but not sure what I can do other than leaving my team. 🤯🫩

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Take a deep breath and hold it for a moment. If I've learned anything about anything ... bosses should work equally hard for their people as so those who work for them ... if that makes sense.

Figure out where your people have problems and try to address them a piece at a time.

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I’d highly recommend working with neurodiversecoaching.com. Schedule a free consultation. She has a lot of experience in this area and really helped me.

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Try to talk to them straight in the eyes as fast you can. Then go

I have had something similar happen. My skill set is diametrically opposed to what I suspect a good manager would have. It is demoralizing to be so bad at it....I am trying, but overall have progressed little.

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