My 1 year old seems seems to prefer my partner when it comes to comforting her. She also shows him more affection. He takes her when she wakes up in the mornings and I know it’s kind of a cuddly time (which I miss out on) but quite bummed about this… when she was more of an infant she only wanted me. Hoping it’s a phase…

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My son has been the same way. It was all about mama in the beginning (don’t bite the hand that feeds you, I suppose). Then when I was pregnant with my second, he was all about dad. It totally broke my heart when he would only want my partner when he fell or felt sad. However, it felt amazing when he only wanted dad for diaper changes!

Now he’s three years old and prefers me for some things and dad for others. Order in the universe feels restored. It helped to have dedicated time 1:1 with him when I could (e.g. Dad cooks dinner and I spend dedicated time. He also loves going on errands, so jetting off to pick up a few things at Target felt really special to him.).

Like any relationship, it’ll wax and wane and it isn’t always a direct result of what you’re doing. Try to give yourself grace, and know that it won’t be this way forever.

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Showing and then switching preferences is totally normal! I see it in mine, and my mom always tells me how bummed she would get when I was a baby and would run to my nanny if I fell but I have always been extremely close to my mom. Don’t read too much into it!

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Very helpful. Thank you!

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Totally normal. I have 19, 17 and 6 year old daughters— it’s totally normal and will happen more than once.

My husband was getting upset (somewhat play pout, but kinda real too) recently when our 6 year old preferred me, and I had to get on him later that she needs to know she’s not responsible for his feelings, and doesn’t need to do what he wants just to make him happy (my older girls have had some bad controlling manipulative boyfriend experiences and I’m trying really hard to get our youngest ready).

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My youngest went through this for like 2 years and I was so upset. My pregnancy with him was rough his first year of life was killer on me. I was so mad he preferred his dad. Now he is such a mommas boy! I know its hard but its a phase.

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My 4 year old still does this, and it changes daily. Today was a mama day and she screamed at her Papa because she wanted me to help her get ready for school (I was getting the baby ready for daycare). I suspect tomorrow will be a Papa day and I’ll be the rejected one. It’s a phase that lasts for a while but also changes often

It’s totally normal and it will often go back and forth over time.

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