My boss suggested that I become more assertive in my CM duties. I've been introverted most of my life, do you guys have any tips on how to be more assertive and authoritative when it comes to managing a community's concerns?

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My tip would be to Develop your self-confidence. It is critical to learning to be assertive. Self-confidence helps you feel comfortable advocating for yourself rather than being guided by the views and opinions of others. One way to enhance this skill is to learn more about yourself.

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Thanks for that. I don't always feel confident. I feel confident in my abilities but need to speak to people more confidently. I feel like others are better/more important to me. In one way, this makes me great at my job. However, from another perspective (namely, my boss's), I also need to improve here.

Hi! Advocating for yourself is not just about having a better experience or feeling better. It also enables you to perform to your fullest potential and is a contribution to both you and your entire company. Knowing that being assertive helps both you and your company be successful can make you more comfortable and enable you to confidently speak up about your needs.

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It is important to know that you can’t control the actions of others. If someone in the workplace has misinterpreted your assertiveness, you can only control how you advocate for yourself. As long as you remain respectful and empathetic of other people’s time and needs, there is nothing wrong with advocating for your own rights and needs in the workplace.

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Wow, thank you. This is a perspective that I needed to hear - but didn't even know I needed to hear. Thanks so much!

You can practice doing just that in common workplace scenarios before they occur at work. For example, you can role-play with a friend or family member to make sure you are prepared for the different responses you may receive and to assure you are advocating for yourself in a way that will elicit a positive response.

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Being assertive in your work is possible even when you are introverted. Are there any particular duties that your boss thinks you need to strengthen or was this just general feedback? I would ask for specific examples to help you determine what to focus on.

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That's a great question! I should ask him for more specifics so that I can develop a plan - or see if there's a possibility that some of his complaints are unfounded.

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