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Efff that. Like you’re going to gain and lose weight through the course of your life. Age, babies, stress will all cause these. Your partner should love and motivate you. Not make you feel poorly or unattractive. It’s not like you’re obese or at a point where your weight messes with your health. We should be with people that used uplift each other and bring each other love and joy. Don’t settle for any less.
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Hard pass. I’ve been with my husband for 17 years and trust me, there are a lot of unattractive, non-sexy moments down the road, especially if you decide to have kids. 20 lbs is nothing compared to some of the stuff that happens.
Yes!! You are so right! And he better be George Clooney or Jamie Foxx who both age timelessly. And even those gentlemen wouldn’t be so rude.
DTMFA!!!
Run don’t walk away, run away. You deserve to be loved wholly and for someone to love your body too. This is a huge red flag and one that will continue and eat at you for the rest of your life. Borderline of attractive??? F that. Kick him out.
Let him go sis. If he can love you at any point he doesn’t deserve you at your best either. Dump him and date his trainer 🤣
Not an ok comment at all. On a side note, if you are looking to lose weight, counting calories and focusing on your diet works best; exercise is secondary.
I would not tolerate a comment like this, and will seriously question if the person who’s supposed to be my life partner should say such hurtful things. I’m struggling with my weight and I’ve been the heaviest I’ve ever been. But I just started going to the gym. My partner has never said or indicated that I look chubby or I’ve gained weight or don’t look attractive. We all age and change, and not to forget our bodies have carried us through a pandemic. I’m actually so thankful for my belly and every part of my body that kept me healthy and supported me throughout this pandemic.
Do I want to get fitter and healthier? Yes, but I am trying everyday to be gentle and compassionate with myself.
Lots of love and best wishes xx
First 20lbs is nothing. I applaud him for being honest with you and that is you aren’t slim it will affect how he looks at you. That is how he feels and likely won’t change. The question is do you want to be in a relationship with someone LT having to constantly worry about being thin? Clearly you are active and healthy so this isn’t about being severely overweight. I get if he is into that he would want someone to share that healthy lifestyle and mot be attracted to someone who isn’t active but doesn’t sound like this is the case. You have every right to be upset but sounds like you need to figure out if you can spend the rest of your life worried about if he will find you attractive if you gain weight.
Drop him.
You're 100% right. However, maybe there is a chance that it is something like a thyroid issue? If you're struggling and unhappy it could benefit you to find a medical doctor who is willing to test for potential issues. Plus, he would feel extremely guilty if that ended up being the case.
He wants to breakup with you but is coward and wants you to initiate break up
Your life will be miserable if you stay
I've been gaining weight and my husband has never said anything. The other day I spoke about my goals in the gym and with nutrition and he brought up I noticed you gaining weight. He said he loves me the way I am but if I need help with accountability he would help. He also asked if he should say something, he felt I was gaining weight because I was a bit depressed.
That being said, weight is a touchy subject. TM1 said it best that bodies change over time. Why be with someone that is literally telling you that to put you down.
At least he is being honest and telling you what he likes. Men aren't ways the best at communicating.
This is not someone you should marry. There are men out there who like different sizes and you should find one who will be attracted to you at a healthy weight for you because if you want to have kids some day your body is going to go through lots of changes and the last thing you want in a marriage is that sort of pressure. You will be miserable and eventually resentful. I’ve seen it happen. You are only 3.5 years in. Time to cut and run.