My family tradition is for everyone to go into law enforcement as a cop. I hate this path for myself and want to choose differently. Do you think my family would be okay with this? My parents tend to be super strict.

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I don't know if your family will agree but I do think you should try it. I don't think it's the best thing to choose a path you don't want just to please others.

Don't do something you hate just because your family is pressuring you into it. You might be their child, but you're not theirs to mold into whatever they want. If your family can't accept you for following your own path, then they're not deserving of you.

You should definitely NOT do that if it's not for you. Just think some years down the line when you have your own children. Are you going to force them into becoming a cop as well? Forcing careers onto your children is not healthy and someone has to be the first to break that cycle

I can't guarantee you that your parents won't be upset, at least at the start. If they truly love you, they'll eventually get over it and find it in their hearts to love you regardless of your choices. If they don't, then they're clearly more concerned about some stupid tradition than in seeing you happy

If your parents can't accept you for wanting to be your own person and following your own passions, then they're not really the type of people whose opinion you should be concerned about. It might be tough to confront your parents, but it'll be easier than a lifetime of hating your job

You can't do this job for anyone other than yourself; it's too big of a commitment for anyone to fake it. Either it's a calling for you or it isn't. And if it isn't, there's no shame in that, if your family is thinking rationally they will understand that. They're probably just trying to psych you up so that you feel like you can do it. I can't imagine that they would want something for you that isn't right for your life, though.

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