New dad here with a 10 week old. Wife is working extremely hard to take care of the baby and lately he's very fussy with her and but not me. He'll keep fussing, complaining and crying on her when he's tired and when she hands him to me he gets comfy and falls asleep in 10 mins. Its defeating for her and its killing me seeing how upset she is. She's amazing but she's getting it in her head that she's a bad mom. I'm hoping its just a phase... Anyone experience this? How long till your baby stopped favoring one parent do much? Any tips?

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Baby is picking up on her stress. Try to find opportunities for her to relax a bit. It'll be therapeutic to her and the baby.

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They never stop favoring one over the other. It just switches back and forth. Enjoy the daddy phase. They are fewer, shorter, and farther between. And tell your wife to enjoy the air cover.

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New dad here. First 5 weeks were rough than we watched happiest baby on the block and started using a velcro swaddle blanket (things like a damn straight jacket)...these last few weeks have been a complete 180! Baby gives us a solid 5 hour stretch every night then usually another 3 hour stretch after a feeding. Look into the velcro style swaddles!

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I’ve got 3 kids and they all do this. Very normal. Both girls favored me for the longest time while they were young. Now that they’re older a bit, they both favor mom a little more. My son is still young and favors mom for everything. I’m sure when he gets older, he’ll probably start favoring me more.
Tell her it has nothing to do with being a good parent.
Also agree with D1 that babies can definitely pick up on stress and tend to want to avoid it. Getting her to stay calm and serene and all will be good.

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We watched “Happiest baby on the block” by Dr. Karp. Also, be comforting her all the time as this could be a bit of postpartum depression. My wife went through it. By no means I’m an expert, just sharing my experience. All the best. DO NOT FORGET TO WATCH THE VIDEO even if you think you’ve got it under control.

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Just brought home our 3rd baby 2months ago, was going through the same thing. I land on Thursday’s and from then thru Sunday, he sleeps like a baby... I agree that the baby picks up on the stress, so i started with mani/pedi for the lady and then started adding massage then eventually started her on plated (food delivery service) during the week to alleviate her stress a bit. The lady is getting better... I know the feeling though, nothing worse than seeing her thinking she’s a bad mom. She’s excellent

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Keep an eye out for postpartum depression in your new wife. Ask her to talk. Get her help if needed. Worse case you score points for feels. Newborns are difficult to care for and easy to care for. Sleep, eat, new diaper are their needs but your new tires and inexperienced. Not to mention as they grow day to day the way they want these things evolve. What worked yesterday may not work tomorrow. Keep the lines of communication open with your wife. If you can digest a book during this time I strongly suggest you read Baby Proofing Your Marriage together.

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Thanks gang, appreciate the advice and reassurance. Being a parent is tough work. We're having anxiety over if I have to get back to traveling and my wife is home with a crying baby she can't calm down. I'm hoping if he starts sleeping more through the night and she can get some rest it will be a little less stressful. all of it combined with no sleep is rough.

I’ll add Sleep training... we swear by it and we are so blessed to have followed it. It’s called Ferber method.

You’re welcome 😉

Interesting. Will research further but he actually sleeps reasonably well... Problem is only on his stomach though and with all the SIDS talk these days we don't leave him unsupervised like that. Once he's on his back so we can both sleep he gets really upset every couple of hours. I've been staying up as long as I can to keep an eye on him, transfer him to his back and my wife gets him when he inevitably wakes. This way we each get some sleep. He can sleep 10 hours straight if he's on his stomach though!

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