Sigh. SM refers to me as a “good girl”. I’m a 29 year old woman. I’d love to hear one of my male colleagues called a “good boy”.

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Like you’re all at lunch talking shit and someone says how you’d go out and rage and he comes to your feminism induced, societally programed defense, and says “nah, OPs a good girl”?
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You finish your slide and show him and he gives you a good game pat on the ass and says (in his creepiest “we’re talking about your job here” voice), “that’s a good girl”?

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Actually though, what is the context? I'm thinking about a situation where somebody is like, "have you worked with Jim before, how us he?", "Oh he's a good guy, but not a very hard worker". Wouldn't good girl be the equivalent here?

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My take is she is trying to act alpha

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Female 🐠 here.
Ladies, can we please stop de-legitimizing the feminist movement with petty BS like this post.

There are bigger issues to be fought for.

"Good girl" could easily have been a "good job, girl", which you'd likely (or IMO should be) alright with.

All this being said, if it truly bothers you then be professional/the bigger person and bring it up 1:1 with her first, before taking it to HR.

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Channel your inner Charlize Theron and tell him - “Call me good girl - one more time”. And if he does, kick his ass

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I’d done well on a deliverable and the SM, also a woman, called me a good girl in front of my managers, lead, and analysts...

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That is just.....sad

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Establish her dominance

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Offensive and Sexism in the works

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Kick him in his u know what!

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Yeah, OP, in that context I would say that's very inappropriate.

@A2, I think I provided a very good context of when it would be appropriate.

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I work with a partner who calls me ‘kiddo’ regularly. Not exactly empowering

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A lot about who ? Who is you ?

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Accenture 4 - this is woman on woman action

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This says I run the show here and don't you forget that, "girl"

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Gal is the female equivalent of guy. I had to think about this one for a bit, and the fact that it’s not intuitive is really sad

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Good guy is acceptable good girl is not. Just the way society is. Deal with it.

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It's woman towards woman that changes everything

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I def thought SM was a dude from the original post. That was a good plot twist! You should start calling your SM a good girl too.

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It's weird coz...

I'd say he's a good guy but never that he's a good boy.

Guys and girls vs. Boys and girls.

There is no equivalent to guy for women and she might just be struggling with that.

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She’s being disrespectful and propagating sexism. Whether a man or woman, still tell her the same thing... I don’t appreciate it, and how would you feel if I told you you were being a “good girl”?

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Reminder to all the men in this thread that “dude” and “guy” are not synonyms of “girl.” The masculinely gendered version of “good girl” is “good boy.”

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