So, decided to change my preference to female on a dating app (it used to be male, then everyone), bc I decided to finally live for myself over my brother(who is gay) and my mom and step dad (who are very southern Baptist) and my dad (who would be supportive but is oblivious bc sexuality does not define your child)…so any advice for the female identifying, queer child, who is the oldest in a non-nuclear, multi-religious family, and feels like she needs to protect everyone…would be great

Just discovering RSD after being diagnosed as an adult. I feel like SO MUCH of my life has been impacted by this and I just never had a name for it. At work if someone gives me negative or constructive feedback it can feel like a punch in the chest even if I know it's not personal. Makes romantic relationships so hard too. What do you do to handle it especially at work?

I’m 27 years old, fit, cute, very well educated. Looking for a serious relationship!

How to leverage personal connections for personal gain?

I am a 2nd year and my spouse is a higher up in engineering in big tech. He has some (but not a lot of) sway in outside counsel and could make some intros to in house counsel.

My firm will gladly use my connections for their own gain, so I’m making sure that if/when this situation comes, I take full advantage of it.

Looking for tips on short term and long term strategy.

Any interesting cyber Monday deals for baby stuff that you guys are shopping for?

When you not in a relationship and you have relationship problems. Maybe I'm supposed to be a consultant for life 😞

I know this isn’t a marriage therapy bowl, but my husband has a really terrible tendency of saying things like “you’re being really mean” and completely shutting down during a disagreement when i objectively am not being mean, just truthful or vocal about how i feel about something. It’s a really convenient argument for him because it enables him to either be the victim and me the villian, or forces me to concede my stance and not reach a true resolution. Any tips on dealing with the irrational?

I feel like the people on my flights to and from XNA and in XNA every week are starting to become family ...

How do you balance your social life with work? I feel like all my non-law friends are out doing shit every night and living it up on the weekends and I just can't. I'm either working or I'm tired from working. How can I set better boundaries about working outside of work, and where do y'all get the motivation to be outside after work 😭

My anxiety has been relatively constant during this whole wfh covid situation so I haven’t been wanting to be intimate with my partner as often. They said its bringing down their mood, any advice?

Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

I just met the saddest German ever… Hans down

Anyone ever end things w a dude you only went on one date with bc he wouldn’t stop hitting you up after and have the guy ignore you in public and unfollow you after? I don’t see what the big deal is. I was super nice about it. I get everyone hates rejection but he was doing a lot.

Any expats here face pushback from your family for moving to a different country? They always try to shame me for moving so far away around the holidays...

Just got divorced after being separated for a year. Any suggestions for places to go and meet new folks?

What games, toys, or science kits would you recommend for a kid who’s showing an interest in the sciences?

Someone teach me how to flirt! How do I let this guy know I’m into him?

Any Punjabi guys here? 26F, west coast

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

Google Fishes…
I have two referrals for a position that I’m trying to apply to, however only one of the employee referrals is showing “attached” to the application. I accepted both employee referrals and they both show under my google account, but for the specific job application (which hasn’t been submitted yet) that one referral just won’t show up!!

Anyone know why or a solution?

Hi watch-lovers,
What are your thoughts on dan henry watches? Especially the 1964 bi-compass
Thank you

I survived the cull and consider myself lucky for that.

Anyone who hasn't, please post here with your background and industry alignment.

I'm sure many others on here would be willing to put you in touch with personal contacts to help you get back in employment.

Now more than ever, remember that this too shall pass.

Are we permitted work phones? New joiner today!

Does anyone have any information or know anyone, who has done EHLS English for Heritage Language Speakers program at Georgetown University?

Anyone got any leads in the Privacy field. I have a PhD in data privacy (& JD & Masters) and cant even get past the HR recruitment consultant .....

What measure would one use to say that racism is solved/not solved? Seems like there isn’t a great measure imo.

Anyone play Legends of Runeterra? I think I might be addicted 😂

What can help me (2 YOE at B4) get an interview at MBB besides a referral? Certain skills, certain qualifications, GMAT score, or something else?

We can’t have classroom management without taking care of ourselves first. Rest. Even if it’s for 2 minutes. We close our eyes and reset.

Hey there
Can someone pls refer me to Agoda for Data Analyst?

Hi all! Can you find out where your case was transferred to? I see a lot of people say it was transferred to NBC, is that just an assumption folks are making or do people have the ability to find out?

I wish I could tell my lead how much i like him.

PS: He's engaged.

Any connects for black design professionals?

What is the typical timeline for approval receipts in the mail after online approval of H1Bs? Feels like it’s taking forever.

Do you find that what you find attractive physically has dramatically changed over the years? Everything from body type to facial features I swoon over is so totally different

My manager (unknowingly) messaged me on Grindr. What should I do now?

Anyone ever visited Africa? Particularlly West Africa? If so where you able to be out and feel safe? Any advise? I really want to visit but am scared bc the culture around being gay isnt well received

Anyone in NYC this Thursday eve? Looking to go out and have a fun time. Tips/companions welcome :)

I am in a long distance relationship with someone who is currently in B school. He spends pretty much all his breaks and holidays traveling with his classmates. Most of the time I am fine. But for some important holidays and my birthday, I told him we should spend time together. He just said it’s more important for him to bond with his classmates and ignore my ask. It’s really disappointing and I don’t know what else to tell him. Is that a reasonable ask or am I being dramatic?

What’s up DC?

Poll: single / dating / partnered..? The stresses of the traveling consultant lifestyle and the fickleness of the gay male have made it nearly impossible to date consistently. Do y'all agree?

May be moving to Philly soon. What’s the lgbt scene like? I’m a 27m. Newly single and eager to jump back into the dating life

I know this isn’t a marriage therapy bowl, but my husband has a really terrible tendency of saying things like “you’re being really mean” and completely shutting down during a disagreement when i objectively am not being mean, just truthful or vocal about how i feel about something. It’s a really convenient argument for him because it enables him to either be the victim and me the villian, or forces me to concede my stance and not reach a true resolution. Any tips on dealing with the irrational?

I feel like I’ve lost myself since joining McK. My whole world has become about work. I love my job but I’m not the same person I started and I feel I don’t connect with my friends and family the way I use to. I’m not sure if I’ve grown, or lost a part of myself. Is this growing up or do I need to make a career change?

Any ladies at DU this week?

I have an interview with McKinsey on Monday, any tips/suggestions?

Thoughts on Ru last night? *SPOILER WARNING. DON’T READ IF YOU HAVEN’T WATCHED YET*

Shooters shoot boys. 29 here.

How many of you are in an interracial relationship? And what are yours and your partner's ethnicities?Just wanted to do a quick poll :)

Any bi males here who have struggled with “being taken seriously” by both the hetero & LGBTQ+ community? In the process of interviewing for a new company and feeling the familiar anxiety around coming out at work creeping up.

I could be your next husband. Slide in my DMs to find out.