Sucks when you do favors for ppl over the years w/o *technically* expecting they'll return a favor someday, but also okay sure kinda sorta hoping these favor-getting ppl MIGHT be self-aware enough to help you at some point when you need it. But when they ghost you & you consider saying "Um, hey, remember that big favor I did for you..."? Because people are insane they'd prob consider YOU the selfish/self-serving one for even bringing it up & exposing them as the ingrate TAKERS they are.

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Favours are something you give freely. If you expect something in return, that's an exchange. If a "favour" is owed, it's an obligation. If you wanted a favour in kind you should've said so at the time - a favour isn't something you can hold over somebody else's head forever.

The people you gave favours to may want to also give help freely to you, not in exchange for your favour, but because they want to give. That's their choice.

Take the expectation out of it. Help if you want to help and if you don't, don't.

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This.

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Recently, I’ve realized the only reason why people reach out to me… is because they want something from me. It gets old.

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On the plus side, as a CCO, whatever you post to FB, Insta, or LinkedIn gets 50000 likes!

Yeah.

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You sound a little petty.

Maybe they don’t want to help you because you seem to be holding it over their heads, keeping score and because of your pettiness.

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100%

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Why would you offer somebody a cookie and then be mad when they take it? Don't make the offer if you don't want to.

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Have you actually asked them for this favor? Or are they meant to mind read as well?

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