Thinking if I’m telling my 4 year old daughter that I love her too often. Do kids get spoilt or not value it if you say it frequently? Maybe strange question.

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I have a rule that if one of my kids comes to hug me I never let go first. So no, you’re not spoiling her with the love

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BA2: I like that rule. Implementing it tonight. Hopefully the go live and change management go well.

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Say it as much as you feel it

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There is never too much. I just posted about my 17 year old in another thread. I tell her daily and we have a great relationship. She will sometimes still sit next to me on the couch and lay her head on my shoulder

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Do it now, and do it often man. My girls are 15 and 13 and I'm afraid I didn't say or show it enough. :(

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There are enough cultures where that is entirely unvoiced. Telling her you love her isn't the same as spoiling her - it just makes her secure in that. Letting her get away with everything and giving her everything she asks for? Now that's spoiling. Also, praise can easily be overdone and lead to conceit.

I've also seen situations in other cultures where the dad never complements or tells his daughter he loves her. That goes sideways in a hurry during teenage years, where those girls pick up on any attention anyone pays them, leaving them open to predators, etc. Best strike a balance.

That said, as I said before, telling her you love her is only going to make her a stronger person because she knows she has someone who loves her unconditionally.

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You are an amazing group

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No such thing as over-showing love.. donor as much as you feel like.. they grow up so fast.. won’t even realize when they ll even start responding back ... enjoy it while it lasts

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I tell my 6 years old boy I love him whenever I can, even after (and more importantly) redirecting bad behavior or “time on the stairs"

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All the way through to adulthood

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BA2 I have the same rule

Ba2 I’m stealing that! @op show your daughters the gold standard in how they are to be loved; that way when they marry they know how a man/partner should treat them

*do it..

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