Today my boss asked me if I was okay, and I just burst into tears. It wasn't even in person either, it was over bloody Slack. Wtf is wrong with me?

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No shame in bursting into tears. Sounds like you’re having a tough time - like a lot of people.

Worth thinking about exploring whether some external help might be additive. Talking therapy can be incredibly effective. Exercise works for me.

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You're struggling. Want to tell a bit more?

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Tears are a way of expressing a way you’re feeling (can be happy, sad, angry, it’s a release). Some people react with more tears than others, it’s a normal thing and not to be ashamed of. What’s more important is to look at the emotion that caused the tears and ask what that was? Why were you feeling that?
Also side note very nice that they asked if you are ok - but maybe they are also picking up signals that you are not.

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I did this too. I think it’s because you are going through a lot right now and haven’t acknowledged it so all the emotions are bursting out when somebody actually just open a bag of emotions.

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Hey I do the same when I'm stressed and overworked with no time to decompress. It just builds and builds until a big release which is either an angry outburst or crying.

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I do the exact same. It also is usually worse when I am exhausted. I try to wait until I hit the shower and can cry in private, but sometimes it just doesn’t work! Luckily, I’ve managed to follow the same manager for a good portion of my career and he is like ok we’re taking this off your plate and you’re going home and getting sleep so you can hit it hard again.

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Another CEO friend and I were just talking about this. We have both experienced this. He said he has a “crying chair” in his office

It’s often the high performers with about 5 years experience and are putting so much pressure on themselves that have breakdowns the most. Although it can happen to anyone. They care a lot about their job, and want everything to be right. When something is out of their control, that’s when it’s most acute.

The secret is business and work can be chaotic. Things don’t always go right. People don’t always get along. And that’s ok.

You’re doing good. Take a break and come back it’s the knowledge that you can do this. And don’t worry so much about what other people are or are not doing. Just focus on the thing you want to complete for yourself, trust the process, and know that work is just part of your life it’s not your whole life.

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That’s interesting to hear. Thinking about it now, the couple of times this happened to me were all between 4-6 years of working.

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I had a similar experience a few years ago but it was in the lobby of my office. Hang in there OP! Feel free to dm me if you want to chat

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Nothing is wrong with you.

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I’ve done this a few times (in person though which may be worse tbh.) Like EY1 said, for me it is a combination of stress, overwork, exhaustion, and having limited time to process your emotions.

I’m not sure of your industry but in public accounting (and I imagine other high stress industries), I’ve seen many of my coworkers either cry or come out of an office after having been crying.

You’re a human and it’s normal to have and express emotions. I wouldn’t feel bad about that.

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