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You’re fine, don’t make it a habit
How old?
When I apologize for things like this I always make it clear I am apologizing for losing my temper and not what specifically I said. I think that's important to prevent them from.being too worried about other people whose word choice is not so discerning.
She’s 5 and I agree on the advice too
Hey, we all have our moments of weakness. Accept grace and move forward. When I say things I don’t mean to my kids, I like to model out the apology so they can see it applies even to mommy and daddy.
The glories of parenthood. IMO it shapes us more than our kids. Keep doing a great job, dad 👍🏼
My kids are 16 and 14 now.
I still clearly remember one night when my son was maybe 6 and he was just being a tremendous little shit, I lost my temper and slapped him upside the back of the head.
It wasn’t very hard, it didn’t rise to the level of abuse or anything, but at the same time it wasn’t part of any parenting strategy or punishment or whatever. It was just me snapping and being cruel to the little boy who I’m supposed to raise and protect and care for. He cried his little eyes out.
It’s been 10 years and I remain deeply ashamed of that moment. Having said that, my son doesn’t remember and he turned out fine. If I were to try to apologize to him about it he’d look at me like I’m stupid and say not to worry about it.
We all make mistakes, especially as parents. It’s about patterns of behavior. Don’t make a habit of speaking like that to your daughter and it’ll be fine.
How old? We started telling them that they need to be in their rooms at 8 but can stay up and read until 8:30 on their own. It works wonders.
They’re 5 and 2. I like the read on your own. We’ll start trying it.
It happens, and you could’ve said much worse. I stubbed my toe and yelled mother#}#%!? In front of my 18 month old this morning
Dude...
Dude, don't sweat it. This shit is hard - just apologize and show her you are human. She will understand. We are not perfect.
5.5, 3.5, 1 here. Reading in bed started for us at 2-2.5. 5.5 y/o reading chapter books. 3.5 y/o “reads” stories she knows by heart.
We’ve all slipped with shut up, Jesus Christ, shit, etc. We apologize, talk about how rules about bad words are the same for grownups and kids (as opposed to bed time or wine drinking). I’ve even let my oldest out me in timeout for naughty words. Justice cuts both ways.
Haha, I like the “put you in time out”
Part of it too is that you have to separate the reasons you want them in bed. Part of it is they need sleep and it’s good for them. But the other part of it is you need some time alone with your wife and want to watch your favorite show. The kids also have two motivations. They don’t want the day to end because they’re having fun. And they want more time with us. Reading in bed tries to address one of these issues for both parties. It’s not perfect. Sometimes my kids come and find me in the house to talk more. But that only happens once in a while. I also recently got them garmins which allow me to track their sleep, give them chores, count steps etc. They love them. And the devices allow me to see how much sleep they are actually getting. Assuming these are somewhat accurate. Both of them are almost always fast asleep by 9, up by 7. Which I think is a decent amount of sleep for their ages.