What's a healthy way to confront someone about their addiction?

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Have you tried talking to them one on one? Communication is the best key sometimes. Try to offer ways to help them and utilize resources locally within your area.

Friends told me I needed help1:1 nicely over the years. There's no way I ever would have listened until I was ready. But it at least got me thinking about recognizing I have a problem and when I was ready (years later) I knew what friends I could talk to about it.

Depends on your relationship with them. If this is truly a very first chat. If they have already had fallout from their addiction or are basically before that.

Overall though the answer is like any convo with someone you care about… go into it with a caring and empathetic stance. Keep the door wide open to be supportive for when they are ready to walk through it. If you are their spouse, you might be able to threaten/pull them one foot through the door… but even then they will still have to take the final step through.

It really depends on the relationship you have with that person.

Some relationship dynamics will almost always be met with resistance. Others can be more fruitful. It really comes down to trust and whether the person feels the confrontation (probably not the best word to use; maybe “conversation”) will be without judgement nor an attempt to control.

If my mom told me to drink less I’d be annoyed or angry and probably resent her. If a close friend offered to go to an Open AA meeting with me after a regretful weekend bender, I might be more open to the idea of getting help.

This is a really hard question to answer OP. Like the person above said it depends on your relationship. There are some people I could easily sit down with and tell them I am concerned, and others who wouldn't want to hear what I had to say. I would tread lightly though either way because it is a difficult conversation.

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