When you rely on your parents to babysit, do they do so at their house or do they come over to your house where all of babies things are?

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Lol @ “baby things”. Reminds me of Simpson’s episode when Apu arrived to drop off his 50 kids at daycare: “Is this the baby prison?” 🤣

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For that situation I would leave the baby at my parents during that time. 8 hours is a long time for your parents to be stuck in your house. Might seem like an inconvenience for you that night but it’s a long day for your parents to watch your kid too.

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You are asking them a favor, so I supposed do what convenient for them

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OP. Drop the baby off.

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Sounds like your parents have bigger issues... Maybe it's because you've never asked them to babysit before. Your mom sounds passive aggressive.

Get a sitter.

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We’ve done both, depends on the situation. We default to going to their house and will only occasionally ask for them to come here.

To elaborate, we have a wedding to go to this Saturday and I asked my parents to babysit. They said yes, but expect us to bring our 8 month old to their house then come pick her up when we leave the wedding. Issue is baby goes down for bed at 8 pm, so we’d be picking her up after she’s already gone to sleep for the night and then just waking her up once we get there to get her packed up to go home, thus making for a long night. My mother was very turned off, and somewhat offended, by my suggestion that she come to our house to watch baby. She said “I’m not a babysitter, find somebody you can pay to come and sit around at your house all night if that’s what you want”.

I should also add that my mother watches my sisters daughter 4 days a week so they don’t have to pay for daycare...meanwhile, this is the first time in 8 months we’ve asked them to “babysit” for us.

Both sets of parents are recently retired. Our house is the easiest to work with (multiple kids under 5). So default is our home only.

Sleepovers and field trips are one-offs but for the most part our family is Team Nanny.

I fully acknowledge how fortunate we are to have this.

D1, they would only have to be at our house from maybe 6:00 - 10:30.

Oh sorry, saw a few 8s and made it 8 hours in my head. Same logic applies though, not as dramatic and I would ask my parents to watch at our house but would be ok if they want to bring our baby over.

Sounds like there are deeper issues in this arrangement with your parents

Regardless, if it's free childcare, I'd defer to what your parents want. If you want to avoid intrusion to your child's bedtime, hire a babysitter or ask a more amenable friend to babysit

Both, but mainly our place as it’s easier for all and that way my folks place doesn’t get torn up!

Yeah too bad your parents aren’t the type that would come to the house, but you have to respect their wishes on this one. I could see how this would be a hassle for them. Is it an option to just leave the kids at their place over night and get them in a morning. Maybe you get a hotel at the wedding site and make a mini vacation out of the affair

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