When you're so unhappy and unsatisfied with your personal life right now, it trickles into the job interviews you're doing, so you don't end up interviewing well.

How do you interview better when you're depressed? Can't sell myself when I'm shit.

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Pure dissociation and pretending I’m playing a character, but it’s so draining and probably not therapist-approved. 😵‍💫

like

I give a wide buffer before doing an interview to distract myself by walking outside or exercising like jumping rope to music. Then a shower. Then open up the LinkedIn pages of the people I'm meeting, the company's page etc. I'd have prepped a week before but I prep closer to it and seeing all these pages right before me helps to ground me for the interview.

During the interview during the initial intro where they ask about background etc, and I think after last year, everyone can empathize, I'll very briefly and lightly touch on some difficulties or make allusions to going through some hard times. I never confess to being depressed of cos. I'd simply say something like it got harder over winter not being able to step out or exercise and the beginning of the year was a huge challenge getting back in shape. Crack a joke about how inept I am despite having WFH for a year and I still can't perform the right sequence of actions for a call 😂

I'm also in my 40s so I have no pretensions about presenting as a bubbly 20-something over caffeinated creative. I see no shame in being human.

A lot of smiling and nodding waiting for the interviewer to talk while I gather my thoughts and response. No harm in erring on the side of politeness so I don't interrupt them.

And tbh by the time it gets into talking about the work, I've eased into it and past the awkwardness. I switch gears cos describing the work and the process leading to the work is quite involving.

Then I'd have established some rapport and hopefully we can riff a bit about work or thinking, find some common grounds and laugh about some stuff.

So it's really the initial hump and first 10 mins to get past IMO.

helpful

OP I'd been searching for a new job for three years then the pandemic hit. I was in double depression and interviewed this entire year. I was optimistic this year and interviewing wore me down. I was crying at therapy because it felt like my life and family depended on it.

Some disassociation is true. It's no different from going on a first date or the first day at work.

I signed a job offer last week. You know the cliches.

Interviewing is work and it's a marathon. Sometimes you just gotta take a break from it too. Look after yourself and remember to breathe. ❤️

like

Spend some time before an interview with some introspection to focus on the moments you were happy and thriving at work. Take yourself back there. Just close your eyes and remember those moments. Ad imagine a bra job could be the first step to you rebounding mentally and emotionally for a fresh start. The fact that you’re even taking initiative to find a new job while depressed is amazing. You’re strong enough to do that, then you’re strong enough to get into the right headspace before an interview to channel the version of yourself you strive to be. You’re depressed but that version of you is in there, fighting to get back out. It’s in you. And you’re amazing

uplifting

Lemme know if you wanna do a mock interview with me. I can also share my story of depression and how I climbed out recently. Also my recent interviewing experience. DM me. Here for ya!!!! You can do it!’

I feel this, I’ve had an episode right before a major interview and it was just really tough. The first thing you can do is not to be hard on yourself when things like these happen out of your control. I also try to take half an hour before the interview to just unwind a little and focus on prepping for the interview instead of jumping straight into it from whatever I was working on. Hang in there!

You got this! Sometimes we just need a little reminder that we’re all humans before our jobs.

Definitely prep. Reread the description and try to psych yourself up about your future life in that role.

It helps me to write out and practice talking about what I think of as the four universal questions:

Why do you want this job? (Why here? Why now?)
What could you specifically bring to this job?
What examples of projects have you done that prove you can do this job?
What is one example of a time you failed or were faced with a challenge? (Meaning what did you do to prove that you’re tenacious and/or learn from your mistakes.)

Then have three questions prepared for the interviewer.

Good luck!

Do you have to be interviewing now? Might be better to wait u til you are in a better mental state both for the interview process and your ultimate decision making ability.

I’m sorry! Don’t beat yourself up. Maybe these opportunities weren’t meant for you anyways!

like

Be really kind to yourself! Go in with a positive and realistic attitude and plan some fun things to do for yourself after the interview.
Have you done anything to tackle the root causes in your personal life too? Get ahead on the issues before the next interview?

Related Posts

I've gotten feedback that I'm too honest in my interviews, is that really a con for future employers? 🫤 How do I refrain from doing that anymore?

like

How to prep for Project Manager onsite interview?

like

How can you gauge whether a LMM pe shop with limited past employees has a good culture or not? I’m interviews with a few but feel like I have no clue if itll be sweaty, chill, etc. What questions can I ask to get insight into this?

like

How long from submitting applications are candidates hearing back from firms in this market?

like

I’m a recent grad, so I’ve been interviewing for both internships and junior AD roles. l just got an internship offer at a smaller agency, but I am hoping something full time will pan out soon...do I-

NYS
I work for NYS, I have been able to get interviews for the next step up position, I'm currently an 18, I would like to move to a 23. What are good interview strategies to use when looking for a promotion.

like

Amazon Web Services Any security TPM out here who can help me prep for an upcoming interview. Can pay an equitable amount for your time. Amazon Web Services Amazon

like

What type of interview will be there for 2.5 year experienced candidate from Data engineering domain to Tableau/Snowflake.
Will they take it as general or specific to our work experience/primary skill.

Hi All
What is
Adobe's interview process? How many rounds are there?
And how much do they pay to QA Professional 8+YOE. Adobe

likehelpful

Anyone has any idea of cricbuzz 2nd round of frontend interview? i got selected in 1sst round and tommorrow is 2nd round any onw got any idea what they will ask as per previous interviews, (0,-6 months of experience)

like

Guys need help-
I got an email from Genpact about English Voice Assessment. Is this round conducted for all analytical roles as well?

Has anyone given this English Assessment round?

Hi guys,
I have cleared all the rounds for LTI post which I received autogenerated mail and then later HR asked to upload documents. In how many days can I expect offer letter?

like

Hey Folks, I'm currently in the interview process for Optum at Data Science role. What is the average pay in Data Science role at Optum for 5.5 yoe.
Would be really helpful for my further HR rounds. Thanks!

like

Got Amazon career essentials (ACE) assessment to complete for Business Analyst role
To anyone who has experience with it- What kind of work simulation questions should I be expecting?
Is there a way I can prepare for it or any resources one must know of?

like

Has anyone ever asked to renegotiate their salary after starting a job? I’m 2 months into my new job and I have far more responsibilities than what I was told. It’s a lot different than what was relayed in the posting and during the interviews. Additionally, they hired my counter part in as a senior manager which is at least $30k more than what I make. My peer has more experience so I expect that but I feel that I should be paid more, however I don’t want to leave a bad impression… any advice?

like
like

McKinsey & Company I am entering in the interview rounds with McKinsey and wondering if anyone had tips, online course advices or materials to share!
Also would anyone be interested or knows anyone to do a coaching session that has already worked in Mckinsey? Thanks! McKinsey & Company @

helpful

Had a very unpleasant experience with the entire interview process at Paytm. First of all they kept all three rounds in a single day . It started from the morning and ended up till the final round at late evenings. After all the rounds were cleared, the HR asked for the expected package, and when I gave him my quote which was just 35% more than my current CTC, he got reluctant and said we only have a budget of an X amount which was just 10% more than my current CTC. Who on earth does that..?

like

Anyone know the detailed steps of applying for unemployment in IL after you get your pin and submit on the web the first week? Phone lines are unresponsive/website gives limited details on next steps

like

More Posts

When I am looking at an email attachment in Outlook it shows the Google Chrome logo but when I open, it opens in Adobe which is what I want. Even though it is opening an Adobe, my boss would like it to show the Adobe icon instead of chrome next to the attachment… anyone know how to do this ?

like

Now I'm in a client location, My manager is a good person but he told me, I should report to Lead.

Lead is a psycho. He shows hell to the team members including me.
What should I do ?

like

Just registered for WAATBP end of this month and am looking forward to it!

like

Need your suggestions on my next appraisal which is on November:

Designation: Business Development Manager
YOE: 6 years
CCTC: 7 LPA + variables

How much can I expect?

like
like

The firm I work for is not closing for the hurricane. Staff were told to work from home or take PTO if they could not come in to the office (and the building is now closed until Friday). Is this normal?!

like

About to do my first interview for an in house job (coming from a midsize firm).
What are some questions typically asked, and good answers to those questions?
What are some good questions to ask?

like

Hi fishes, do qualifications like B.E, BCA or BSC decide the CTC?

like
like

Has anyone been offered a job at the client site during interviews with management?

like

After a final interview, how many days after can I expect an answer from the recruiter?

At the end of the interview, the person told me I passed the interview and they were going to talk to the Director who’s a level under them. It’s a yes for them and they’re happy to work with me.

I also sent my references. I don’t know when I can expect an reply. Recruiters from that company aren’t really organised

Hey Partners! I accepted a position at another firm and was bumped from manager to Senior consultant level. Could you give me some advice on 3 key things I can focus on to help me re-advance quickly?

like

can anyone pls give some reviews on Idfc first bank as i received offer from idfc and bit confused here.

What’s happening LA? Anything exciting this month?

like

Hey everyone, I gave Tata Consultancy interview 3 days back and same day got mail as shortlisted and to upload the docs. My status in ibegin is evaluation in progress. How long does it take to get HR call for salary discussion? PS I have 20 days left in notice. IBM Accenture Cognizant

like

What would everyone think would be a good salary for a senior manager of digital product and strategy for an established fintech company? Comparably has 179k base as the median. Recruiter mentioned 173 as their all in top.

like

We’re hiring across a variety of roles. If one on our site catches your eye - happy to refer if you DM! 😊

likefunny

Additional Posts in Mental Health in Advertising

Exhausted by entitled clients that are just plain nasty. Is it just me or are clients everywhere getting more demanding and treating their agencies worse?

like

Anybody on Trintellix? Thoughts ?

like

I’m not having harmful thoughts but I’m so sad and scared I wake up in the night crying. It makes me tired and I can barely focus. Ideas?

Your secret weapon to deal with stress at the office?

like

I need help. I'm dealing with multiple losses in the same week and having a hard time... I took some time off from work but I have no motivation to do anything. I don't want to go back to work and don't care about my work right now. I want to quit but I don't want to make a rash decision but need a long break. It's also not fair to my team that I can't give it my 100%. What can I do?

like

Its my birthday. And nobody knows at my work I feel a bit awkward also first birthday I have to be all alone :/ . New city any ideas to celebrate myself ?:D

like

K so. My bf just told me he is an atheist. I knew he wasn’t super religious, but our talks before made me think he atleast believed in some sort of afterlife. I know everyone has their own opinion..

like

Now entering my third week of no booze, after getting horribly and embarrassingly wasted at my work summer party. I won't lie, even though I find myself wanting a drink often, it feels really good.

like

I take immense comfort in knowing that chances are, I cross paths with some of you daily. Does anyone else notice this? It’s fascinating.

like

Really appreciate this bowl - and this barely matters - but the cover image is quite off putting.

likefunny

Ever had one of those days where everything is just making you cringe so bad, to the point all you want to do is sit on the ground and cry?

Today is one of those days, and even when I know things will get better or "this too shall pass", I am sad, I can't enjoy whatever good there is...I feel powerless.

like

I’m in my late 20s and struggling to find inspiration of what I want to do with my career/ life. Anyone have any good book or movie recommendations that inspired them during a similar time?

likehelpful

How can I live with my decisions and stop changing my mind about things?

like

Would it be bad if I change my start date? I proposed to my employer a start date 2 weeks after I quit my job, but now that I think about it, I feel like I need a week to recharge before starting a new job.

like

Me: Today will be a great day
My anxiety:

Post Photo
likefunny

How do you deal with a boss that wants you to quit and is becoming increasingly more abusive. But you haven’t found a job yet and need this job financially.

like

I feel like my brain is dying. I can barely think let alone think of good ideas. I’m angry and depressed and it’s consuming my thoughts.

like

Struggling with identity now that I’ve finally, truly accepted depression/anxiety are medical conditions I need meds for. I love who I am on meds, but I hate feeling like that isn’t “the real me."

like

Has anyone else noticed they’re stressed without “feeling” stressed? I don’t feel as stressed as when I was in college. However, I’m still on the job hunt and I think stress is manifesting itself without me realizing it. My skin is showing really bad acne, I feel unmotivated even to fill out job applications; I’m having trouble falling asleep at night and even though I sleep past noon sometimes I still feel tired during the day... Is it stress or burnout?

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal