29+ single/unmarried males, why are you still single or unmarried?
I will start- 30M here, introvert, shy nerd who is living in a foreign country and overworking himself to death.

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Because time is in my favor, women have no problem dating/marrying a slightly older guy. I figure at 35 I can still date 27-29 yr olds with no problem.

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PD1 - I’m afraid that none of the data supports your hypotheses.

1) Women, more so than men, prefer to date men who have equal or better educational attainment, earning power, older, etc. Every study confirms this.

2) Among unmarried people, there are far more college educated women than men, it’s 1.2-1.3:1.0 nationally and much higher in urban areas and above the age of 30. The US government publishes a lot of stats on this, easy to quickly google.

The dating pool as a male in your 30s is simply way larger than a comparable woman. Don’t believe me? Ask any single female or male in a major metropolitan area.

29M. Haven’t found the right person. But also not really looking right now. Way too selfish about my time and like to march to the beat of my own drum. Not really in a rush tbh and still want to learn more about myself before committing to someone. Also still enjoy playing the field so there’s that.

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I’ve never been in a relationship that makes me feel tied down. But it’s still a relationship, which means making certain sacrifices that I don’t want to deal with right now.

Dating in NYC is a jungle

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33M It's difficult for me to develop a meaningful relationship with someone. I'm not even sure how it's done.

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Be a man and ask a beautiful woman out

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lol 😂

34M, didn’t plan for it, just ended up happening. However, I have had a fair share of relationships. Some relationships didn’t work out because people who I wanted a future with didn’t want one with me, some because we disagreed on fundamental issues and some because I wasn’t remotely close to ready.

I would pretend that it’s because I focused on my career, but that’s not at all true, I happily prioritized relationships but I am terrible at them given my own shit which I continue to work through.

I will add, I am a much better person/partner now than I ever was and it shows in the progressive quality improvement of relationships I’m in, however that doesn’t mean that it’ll culminate into something.

But surprisingly (even to me), I’m pretty zen and relaxed about the relationship thing, largely because I am still an over grown man child who is growing up, just taking my sweet time and in no hurry.

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Can we be friends P1? 😊

Same as you man. Also, I’m scared of getting married - the wedding ceremony, lack of friends, drama, not enough saved, etc.

Sounds like since runaway anxiety. When you find the right person none of that matters.

I’m an introvert and very self conscious in my personal life. Pretty sure there’s no one out there for me at this point.

It’s super trite but I’m sure there is - y’all just haven’t crossed paths yet. Try and get out of your comfort zone sometimes and I bet good things will happen.

29M (gay) - have been too focused on career, and have only dated guys that aren’t really ready for anything long term. On the plus side, I have no societal expectations, and even if I found a partner I’d like to settle with, not sure I would even get married!

But do <I>you</I> want to get married?

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