33M, wife and a 16 month old.. if you were in my shoes, would your wife be cool with a six day int’l golf trip with three buds? Assume 30% childcare support + working wife.

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If I went on that trip, I’d make sure to have a divorce attorney on retainer.

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I have a wife and 3.5 year old and 1.5 year old and my wife is encouraging me to go golfing in Scotland with my brother 😂

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Scratch her back good tonight!

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I played college golf, it was real important until I had kids. I went from a scratch to “retired” when my daughter was born. I didn’t pick up a club for 24 months. My wife told me to get out of the house, to start playing again. She was fine with buddy trips, but six days is a loooong time with a baby. My wife understood how much golf meant to me, it literally saved my life when I was a kid. I don’t know how your spouse feels about your golfing generally, but i’d probably ease into it with like a three day trip to Bandon.

Ultimately, you know your spouse and none of us randos on the internet can match that. Being quietly resented sucks, you don’t want to put her in that position unless you’re super comfortable with her answer, and if you’re asking us, i feel like you’re not.

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I’m doing pinehurst this year on a long weekend and my kids will be almost 5 and 2.5. Wife is fine with it and will have extended family support if needed.

With proper notice and child care support yes. Spur of the moment no. I have 2 kids under the age of 3. Always ask yourself “would I want to watch this kid by myself for 6 days”.

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you’ll need to pony up for a nanny or babysitter that week and it will make it better

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Can you sign her up for a girls getaway when she’s done nursing (if not already)?

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In her mind nothing will ever make up for this trip unfortunately

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As long as you reciprocate

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I am going on a similar trip which was to be in 2022 but since it coincided with birth of our first kid I cancelled. Wife occasionally complains but she realizes that Bandon Dunes is only a golf trip. I would say earn some brownie points before you plan such trip. Don’t do this trip on a short notice. She may also be in post partum depression; so be aware of that. She probably thinks you are ditching her for your own joy.

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Female/mom here - line up support for the evenings and weekends - can her sister/friend/mom come stay for the week or at least a few days to lighten the load when it will just be her (i.e. getting out the door and dinner and bedtime) I would say it’s doable. My husband and I take friend trips all the time but now we have 2 kids - it takes a village. Gauge her comfort level as well, my biggest issue is I hate being alone in our huge house by myself 😂

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Dangerous trip with young one at home … Take them both on a hood overnight two or three hour away vacation

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What does 30% child care support mean?

She needs 100% childcare while working, no?

Daycare 8-5 while working. My parents would come off the bench Saturday / Sunday

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Don’t do it

Going on this trip in the summer and no complaints on my end

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How’d you know we live in the hood?

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