ADHD coping mechanism: Minimalism. As I write this from my SO's place, I'm overwhelmed with all the stuff. It reminds me of the times when I'm most productive, it is when I am on the road with just me and my carryon suitcase, on a plane or in a hotel room. Clutter is a huge distraction, each item prompts thoughts. "forgot about that, what is that? why is that there? oh I could use that! was that a waste of money? do I wear this or that? do i use this mug or that mug? etc. How is your space?

A friend of mine was arrested last night over a DUI charge and his family is worried sick. How can I help comfort them...

Looking for a good daycare or nanny in Cambridge. About a year out but everywhere seems to have waitlists. Any guidance here?

How do you manage the constant school cancellations? Do I need a nanny in addition to daycare?

I have a para/assistant teacher that just wants to argue over everything. “You’re the teacher, why do I have to assess the children during break out rooms?” We have 8 kids, and I am only asking her to do 3! The other para is doing 3 and I and doing 2 with IEPs!!! How am I supposed to handle this in a professional manner virtually? Plus she is frustrated b/c o can’t explain everything. I keep telling her it’s all new to me too. Grace is not a word in her vocab. And I am feeling graceless.

I just came home sobbing because I got too drunk at my female best friends house and her husbands male friend tried to take advantage of me when we were left alone in a hot tub. My boyfriend didn’t ask if I was okay but instead screamed at me, threw things and left the house. Dumping him is the only logical answer?? Am I crazy?

How do you handle people’s kids showing up on video meetings? Screaming, kicking, hamming it up, (wasting time.) Everyone else is coo-ing…I’m not a kids person. Heard a technique which is to drop off the call bc you “assume the call is over” (which seems like a great way to get fired especially if it’s a way higher up’s kids - plus it feels rather passive aggressive.) Thoughts?

Has anyone successfully pursued a relationship with someone they met at work? An MD I am really attracted to has been chasing me, but I am nervous about what the repercussions could be if it doesn't work out. Still, it's tempting

Looking for a husband 🤣

How do you know if you have outgrown someone? Known my boyfriend for 2 years but have dated seriously only for 6 months. Confused as why i’m feeling this way.

My brother-in-law (age 30) told us recently that he is transgender. How can we support him? (‘Him’ as we haven’t discussed pronouns yet). It was a surprise to us!

Is bfs account Contract get extended or they simply release and we get bach to parent (cts), for another project is complete bgv happening or they just handle from their side?

Has anyone one been in the interracial relationship(s)? How was your experience?

I have pretty strong social phobia and am worried about making friends. I'm going to be working for an engineering company so I imagine I don't have to be really up on the latest trends or anything but how can I talk to people without making it sound unnatural?

How was your Thanksgiving? Anyone else stuck avoiding all of the relationship questions?

Anyone here ever been scared by some major differences in materialism with your partner? I’ve been considered “boujee” by some friends but my girlfriend of just over a year is on a whole other level. Lately because of many of her friends getting engaged / married, rings have been mentioned and she’s said pretty much she wouldnt be happy with under 25k.

I come from a very middle class upbringing, and so does she, although she’s influenced by friends dating professional athletes and stuff

Best Christmas things to do with a two-year-old?

Best self-care tips for dealing with loneliness/sadness this time of year? This is my first Christmas without my mom and it just feels like nothing will ever be the same again 😭. If you’ve lost a parent can you give me advice on getting through the holidays? Being a parentalish figure to my students is both healing and heartbreaking.

Today is my first day back at work (and first full day back in my physical office) after a few weeks off for parental leave. Needless to say, I am struggling to stay focused on anything other than wanting to go back home to my spouse and child.

I know I shouldn't take an emotional temperature on day one, but it has been more difficult being back than I anticipated. Any tips for navigating the waters for the first day/week/month back?

Any moms on here that absolutely love their company and feel 100% supported?

How do I get promoted?

Hey All- looking for a variety of freelance producers- mid level to senior. Hit me up if there’s someone great looking for a gig.

Does PHR certification help in India, as this is globally recognised how much valuable is this currently in indian job market.

Do we got some good offers or its another certificate just to add to CV after so much of investment & time I don't want to get this wasted !!

Need suggestions ??

Hi People, Need some advice. Currently I am in EY India, joined it 7 months back.
Got an offer from Nagarro with 18LPA(17 fixed).
Should i consider switching? Please suggest. YoE-3.6 years. Current CTC- 10.7 Lpa. Tech stack- Java Spring Boot.

This bowl dead?

The new swatch ads make no sense to me. Skin Irony? Wtf?

Feel like I missed the boat years back to get into Director of Product role. Back in the day there was only Senior in between a Director role, now there’s Lead and Group levels, so much hierarchy now.

Anyone willing to help a fish out and provide a referral for Apple?

Anyone currently enrolled or will be enrolled in the online masters cyber degree at Georgia Tech?

I have an offer from JIO and BottomLine.
Which one is better and recommend to join.

Can anyone suggest on it?

Burnetters are always last to know about Burnett news. 😑

Facing problems with working memory and long term memory while you did good previously. Any supplements/ therapy for memory retention and increasing listening absorbing skills?

Okay, so I have pretty bad cystic acne, clogged pores and enlarged pores. I’ve been using curology and a mild dermatologist recommended soap. I have seen some improvement, however I was curious if anyone was struggling with it and has tried the “Flo Vitamin gummy’s “ on top of my fertility struggle this really has kinda killed my confidence. I know it’s not specifically fertility related but Was hoping to get some feedback on similar situations

Tricare Q:

Vets using Tricare with a family. I’m out and can use Tricare with the VA, but my wife and I each use our company offerings for our family; which obviously come at cost. Is it worth it to switch to Tricare? Has anyone done this and can share details? Positives/negatives?

Does cisco India have their own PF trust or is it EPFO..govt's only

Societe Generale 8Yoe, for java full stack lead how much we can ask? Heard variable pay in SG is around 20 to 25 %. Is that true?

That moment when you don’t remember if you took your Adderall so you take one just in case 🙃

As someone with ADHD, have you ever asked for adjustments to the interview process (PST, case interview, etc.)?

If so, what did you ask for (extra time, or anything else else)? and did you feel like it helped?

Here is my current cocktail: Caffeine 400mg (200 when I wake up then another 200 when I go to the gym 30 minutes later), Modafinil 150, Bupropian XL 150. I used to take adderall but it made me crazy for lack of a better word. Looking to add a stimulant for focus. Suggestions? Currently deciding between Ritalin and Vyvanse. Also, I know I’m a stim junkie I was taking adderall for 20 years so my tolerance is pretty high. Please keep it positive and helpful thanks

How do you get more dopamine?

Best ADHD tip for someone who hasn't yet been prescribed any meds? Waiting 6 months for the formal assessment despite the doc saying " yep you've got ADHD"

Hey there! I am currently taking Adderall and thinking about switching to Vyvanse. Those of you that have taken Vyvanse, did it affect your sleep or caused weight loss?

Has anyone tried nootropics like Thesis? How was your experience?

So i have adhd and really bad anxiety. Seeing a physchiatrist that will likely put me on anti anxiety meds.

Has anyone with adhd here gone on anti anxiety meds without treating the adhd, and if so how did the meds affect concentration and memory?

At what point during the day do you stop drinking coffee/caffeine?

Want to give myself a hard cut off. Have been having issues with sleep since starting adhd meds…

Anyone find that early in your consulting career ADD was an advantage... new projects, new colleagues new clients, etc. In brainstorming sessions everyone would come up with 5 ideas and i [CONT]

Hello All - I struggle with time management. I take medication but I have no idea whether a task will take 40 mins or 4 hours. Because of this, I over commit and under deliver. Also, having been on the receiving end of criticism, over time I have developed a perfectionist streak. I won't turn it in if it is good enough. How do you break out of this habit?

Any resources to help the brain structure tasks and make better estimates? Much appreciated, thanks!

Does anyone else take a combo of Straterra and Adderall? If so why?

Switching from Adderall to Ritalin. Anyone who’s taken both have tips for the switch or thoughts on what to expect?

Took 10mg Adderall xr at 1230 today and fall asleep at 5pm. Is this normal?

How do you deal with the following - 1) lack of general organization in life, note taking, keeping track of your relationships and 2) attention to detail. These 2 things have been bothering me a lot. We all are smart as hell but silly mistakes such as spelling mistakes, broader checks to be done on the deck is killing me. Also I feel the lack of organization in personal life blows into professional as well. If you are a consultant how do u deal with it ?

Here is my dilemma: I was passed up for manager promo last year and rightfully so a lot of my feedback was definitely correlated to me not properly handing my symptoms causing a good bit of inconsistencies in my performance especially if I lacked interest. This year I’ve crushed it and switched up projects off of ones that I’ve long been on. The few people who “advocate” for me seem to be stuck on things that seem either 1) so unsubstantiated and show that they are too far detached from the …

New job exhaustion? I started a new consulting job on Monday and I’m mentally and physically exhausted- not from work but from the newness. Any tips? I’m embarrassed about this and surprised im not more motivated to impress

I have not been diagnosed with ADHD. I definitely fit some of the characteristics that go unnoticed in females. The good news is if i do have ADHD, it makes me quite good at my job as I’m very flexible and can provide positive energy to my patients. Anyway, my boss has told me I have ADHD multiple times. It seems rude when she says it, and she follows it up with “I say that because I love you” which i feel is so unprofessional all around. Anyone have guidance on how to handle this?

Anyone in this group from Canada? How did you all manage to get medication if CBT didn’t work for you? I have tried everything but my family doctor says that she or psychologists aren’t allowed to give prescription and only psychiatrists can. I cant seem to find any directly or through referral 😣