An ex died recently, I am overwhelmed with sadness and grief. The relationship ended many years ago and we hadn't spoken since. How to process this? I am having difficulty explaining and hiding from my current SO what's going on.

Has anyone here been in a situation where following up to the wedding was a lot of stress and fighting, but after you got married things became better?

I hate being a mom, didn't think I would

Sometimes I feel like I am a drone that just works all the time and I have no friends.

Is it okay to disappear from friends & family to work on career change goals (several months)? I want to focus and not get distracted by friends & family needs to see me or attend certain things as it takes up a lot of time. If I focus for a short time, I can quickly achieve my goals to switch. I can hangout with them after all of that. What do you think?? Any feedback will be appreciated.

For those that are home grown (at least 2 levels) into the PPMD level, how has your relationship with juniors that you’ve been close to from the start evolved? Have you had to pull away from them (intentionally or not) or are you just as close? Is the saying “it’s lonely at the top” rung true for you?

Trying to get a 45 y/o sibling in to consulting (was an entrepreneur prior in the restaurant industry). No college degree but willing to bust his but to learn. Books/online courses recommended pls

Anyone else struggling with hormones / mood swings? I am almost 16 weeks and been having a real tough time lately, feeling really down and stressed about things. Sadly, causing tension between me and my partner as well as he cannot relate and seems preoccupied with business as usual. Trying to get out the funk and just telling myself it’s all the hormones.

Are there any well-off suburbs around Chicago where there's a significant amount of black or mixed race people? Significant meaning 40-50%+. I've seen a lot of nice black suburbs in southern and eastern cities but less in the midwest. In an interracial relationship and want to get an idea if there are any suburbs where our kids would feel represented or if we'll need to move down south for that.

I just wanted to reach out and let you all know I understand how tired and beat down we all feel at this point in the year. I’m feeling it too. I also know exactly how students can try us. What I’m working on every day though is to see my kids as God does… not the kids that know how to push buttons and drive me crazy, but as the beautiful lives they are, all deserving of the best we can give them every day. I know it’s not easy, but that’s what I’m working on.

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

I think I want to be in relationship, but I fear that I actually am just lonely and not actually ready for relationship.
I desperatly want someone that I can spend time with, laugh with, and tell good news to amongst so much else.
I don't know what to do or if anything can be done...

Thoughts anyone?

Since I’ve started working at Deloitte I’ve noticed that a lot of my friends from highschool/college either work at D or another big 4. Not always in consulting though. Have run into quite a few of them in my local office does anyone have similar experiences?

If you and your girlfriend went to law school together, were you together the night the bar results came back? What if one of you doesn’t pass / and the other feels like they can’t celebrate?

Any 40+ women here interested to make new friends? 40+ man here.

Random Thought: I love my therapist and I just realized the things I talk to her about I wish I could talk to my parents about. Which made me realize, is that why people have such close relationships with their parents and why they call them all the time? Are people actually getting counseling from their parents?

During interview I was speaking to the hiring manager. Felt interview was going well. He seemed impressed by my answers, excited by my skills, and even gave me a tour of the office. At the end, he asked about my home life. When I spoke of my 3 young kiddos, the manager got a little taken back and replied Oh you have children? I said yes ages 3, 5, and 7. He then proceeded to ask me about daycare arrangements and if I can be reliable. Red flag as his demeanor changed and made me feel unworthy.

Looking for a husband 🤣

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

Any ladies that would like to go out for dinner? 27M 🙃

Is it ever actually a problem for engineers in other parts of the world that US measurements are done in the imperial system?

For a 2-year associate now tasked with senior-like roles such as reviewing and training, does anyone have advice on how to review individual hnw tax returns?

We bought a condo in February 2022 then as you know prices are going down while rates are flying up 😭 We're quite worried about the value of our home and can't really enjoy it. What's your thoughts about this? PS. First time home buyers 🤫

Is Visa a stingy company?

5% in the US. Putting in my notice tomorrow!

Hi fishes, andaru ye ye areas lo untaro chepte nearby vallu weekends lo meet up plan cheskovachu.

I'll go first.

Hyderabad -KPHB

What are some of the investing must-reads that you'd recommend?

New here and as all newbies, I've come to humbly ask for likes to gain the ability to DM. Lol

I feel under qualified at work but I also don’t know how much of it is in my head or in reality. I head a team and they seem to be happy… but I’m also personally not satisfied what we’re delivering is enough… so I have this weird mixed feeling of the stuff we’re doing not really being that stretching, but at the same time I feel out of my depth. I really don’t know what to do and whether to hold on in the hope I’ll learn something or go back to a lower grade and a more comfortable life.

Ratings on three projects - 3,2,2. Utilization - 90%... Proposal hours - 15... Firm activities - 43 hrs... I then get a YE rating of 4 😕 ... How worried I should be regarding the layoffs???

How to resign from pwc…. Where is the option? I cant find it on workday

Any one got the retention offer from TCS ?

How long were you a senior in FDD before things started to click? Really enjoying everything so far but feel like I am behind my peers. Been about 7 months now.

11 likes please to unlock DM.

Please help me rationalize through something:
2 kidneys but can only give 1 (potentially):

1) Cousin: 36, mom of 2, lives a fairly healthy lifestyle
2) Dad: 60-65 YO; kidney failure runs in the family, lives an unhealthy lifestyle but this is dad…

What should I be considering in thinking through how to decide? What factors would you think about?

P.S. will go through screening process for both but just want to start thinking about things now

I get depressed and irritated most jobs I work for at the 3 month mark..:

Has anyone here been in a situation where following up to the wedding was a lot of stress and fighting, but after you got married things became better?

I hate being a mom, didn't think I would

I was raised Catholic and then transitioned to a nondenominational church and now I don't go to church at all but I still believe in God. For those that follow a similar path, what do you use as a moral compass? Do you still read the Bible? Does that matter to you?

Do men care if a woman that works out and is health conscious has cellulite as its part of her build?

How was you memorial day weekend?

….. I exclusively use cap locks to capitalize words instead of shift

Who's Gina? everyone seems to people talking about in the confession bowl.

Women… how in the hell do you type in those acrylic nails??? I just got my first set and it’s so damn hard!

Would you rather the earth to get one degree warmer or colder each year for the next fifty years?

I just watched return to space and I cried when the crew made it to the ISS. More respect to the Space X team ❤️💙

Would you rather get a 50% raise, or get the one that got away back?

Book recommendations, fishies? Looking for something light, but intellectually engaging—a satire, maybe? Or anything really engrossing! Please help ya chiefy, thank youuuu🤗😘

I don’t understand the whole “sending love and hugs” thing people say. Does anyone actually feel the love when they read that?

Y’all are extra judgy in this bowl.

I used to hate growing up poor. Now I'm still poor but I've learned a lot of really practical things. I make most of my wooden furniture, know basic electrical and plumbing work, can cook and bake delicious food, can do most of the basics in car repairs, garden, and make a lot of my own clothes. Not to brag but I'm proud of myself 🥰

I am finally going to see a therapist for my depression and suicidal thoughts. Alot of bad things happened to me the past 2 years and I just can't handle it anymore. Just wanted to get it off my chest.

I have no idea what I’m doing. Life is a little overwhelming, and I want to keep growing as a professional but in a different direction than where I’m at right now. Switching careers and industries is so difficult. Props to those who’ve broken into their first job after a career change!

I’ve accepted I suck at work. And I don’t know what people get from humiliating or criticizing you to the point you think you are worthless.