Random Thought: I love my therapist and I just realized the things I talk to her about I wish I could talk to my parents about. Which made me realize, is that why people have such close relationships with their parents and why they call them all the time? Are people actually getting counseling from their parents?

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

how does anyone work in mbb or t2 til 50 working 60 hours a week on average with this travel… I get like a few years but seems like i’d regret not having lived my life with friends and family.

Noticing a theme on fishbowl recently among young couples so wanted to get to know how (if at all) you managed to solve the issue of being in a relationship with someone who was in a considerable debt or had different spending habits than your own?

New to the city.
How do you all get through the constant gray and gloom? Especially with the lockdowns: with gyms closed, and constant drizzle - what outdoor activities do you do?

Clever ways to get cheaper housing? What's your hack to beat the system?

Married, 2 kids under 3 yrs. Apartment is too small, but we can't afford bigger. Do we rent a 2-story house and split it with another family? Do we stay in our small apartment and get creative with bunk beds and storage solutions?

How can a family, with kids, and one crappy income ($82,000) get a comfortable living situation here?

Is Indy a good place to raise a family? Looking to hear from people who actually live here lol

I just started training with United HealthGroup for Medicare. I have previous experience in Medicaid-- quite a different role, but similar. I'm so nervous about how complex Medicare can be. Any suggestions or advice? I'm not exactly a dumb-dumb but nor am I the sharpest knife in the tool box.

I hate being a mom, didn't think I would

Ya’ll take ya vitamins today?

How do I ship my mom in law back? Almost ruining our marriage and loosing the affection for my wife and kids already

I could be your next husband. Slide in my DMs to find out.

2 friends from college just stayed up with me for 4 hours to make last minute edits to my horrid Wharton essays. Admit or ding I’m grateful to have friends like this in my life.

Any recommendation for a therapist around Jersey City/ NYC area? I have called 15 people so far and none of them are taking new clients. This isn't helping my anxiety.

Seems that the vaccine that usually takes more than 10 years to develop, test for side effects and go through the regulation process is being very fast tracked to roll out - which is a super great thing to potentially eradicate the virus. on the other side of the spectrum, people with life sciences n healthcare insights, how reliable and safe would you say vaccine (being fast tracked) is...?

Any recs on places to go/things to do for a 30th bday in September? I live in NYC but looking to get out to celebrate. My initial plans included being in Mexico with my boyfriend, family and a few friends but it looks like hurricane season will be in full swing during my trip week so now I’m trying to find alternative plans.

Salam, Ramadan Mubarak! Anyone trying to maintain some level of strength training during Ramadan? I know it’s ideal to lift after iftar (maybe after dates/water + magrib and before dinner) but wonder if it is doable to squeeze in a 30-40 min training session right before iftar (for time saving purposes)?

Just started progesterone suppositories. Anyone else worried that you are starting them either too early or too late in your cycle? I read that too early can increase risk of tubal pregnancy…

How come I have to pay $116 out of pocket for my dental exam and cleaning? Is this covered by your firm’s dental coverage plan?

Losing hair really badly!!! :( I dont know if its the thyroid meds or just pregnancy. I'm currently 13 weeks. Any recommendations? I'm doing the hair oil stuff but that will take time.

Anyone just out of first trimester struggling with sciatica pain on right side? It’s excruciating and not sure how to alleviate - I read up on some stretches?

Hello Fishes,
I am looking for position in Product Ownerships /Business Analysis /Product Management role.
I can join immediately.

Who are the best musicologists out there? Thinking about price, experience and also easy to work with. And anyone to avoid?

Do you like Angular or MVC with Razor HTML & Why ?

Hi friends,
What is the minimum criteria for IJP at KGS and how much is it feasible?
Will it be better to look outside or go with IJP?

How many people do you think each SPG/Marriott ambassador looks after?

Hi Fishes, Need 11 likes for DM . Please help

Hi all,

I am an IT professional having almost 5 years of experience and want to move to Canada for PR. My CRS score is not upto the cut off. I need someone who can help in earning connections points for Manitoba PNP program.

As it allows having an acquaintance or a friend to earn those 20 points, it can help my PR application.

Anyone who is PR and resident of Manitoba can dm me to discuss around it. I am ready to pay for this assistance as well.

What's the range of salary that I can expect with 3 YOE in .NET fullstack

Current CTC- 4.45lpa

Looking to book one night at a Marriott property in chicago to celebrate anniversary with my wife - mostly deciding between the Gwen and the Ritz. Which would you choose? (Assume price doesn’t matter)

About to do my first interview for an in house job (coming from a midsize firm).
What are some questions typically asked, and good answers to those questions?
What are some good questions to ask?

Anyone here work 2 fulltime jobs? I barely work for less than 10 hours a week at my current job (except for like 2.5 months when it gets really busy). I just got an offer for a new job that I accepted. I had my performance review today which went pretty well and I’m thinking to keep my current job as it barely requires any work. Has anyone done this? Would this impact me in any way?

Those who joined in Nov, are they eligible for appraisal in Q4. What is the average appraisal hike given @fujitsu.

Any ideas on freelance rates in London? Strategy Director level.

Thinking about going independent and operating out of my home office. Does anyone have any thoughts to share about that? I’m wondering about clients coming to my home and FINRA issues.

When do you give up? Wife has been depressed for some time now. I’ve been doing everything I can to help. Changed cities hoping this would get better, got her professional help.

Thoughts on Facebook. Would you work there if you could work on something interesting or just pass altogether?

Any recommendation for a therapist around Jersey City/ NYC area? I have called 15 people so far and none of them are taking new clients. This isn't helping my anxiety.

I feel like such a failure. I know about imposter syndrome and I know everyone feels like a failure. But I suspect in my case I truly am. I feel like I am just not good enough. I have tried to do...

Is anyone utterly confused about what they want to do long-term?

Anyone have a good therapist in MA?

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

The voice of an outlook email notification gives me anxiety. Does anyone else feel this way or know how i can calm myself? This is a new feeling

Any CBd/hemp oil brands that has worked for you guys?

I was trying to figure out what my personality trait was a few days ago. It’s depression, my personality trait aside from work is depression

Thoughts on Viibryd? Im on my 4th week and I feel like it’s affecting my cognition. I’m finding it difficult connecting the dots as I carry out my job and it’s getting me worried.

Folks, I've recently moved to the U.S. and healthcare here is a maze, even if I have health coverage through the job. I've been wanting to see a therapist and it feels like it is quite expensive to see one. I'm on a HDP PPO plan and essentially I was told I pay $250 a session till I spend ~$7000, and then insurance copay kicks in. Seriously at a loss if I'm missing something or if folks spend the same on seeing a therapist. I'm curious as to how a lot of folks are able to afford the price tag.

When it comes to therapy do I look up a place online and make an appointment or do I need some sort of referral? Not sure if I need to see a therapist or physiatrist really.

I'm constantly stressed and demotivated for no apparent reason. Anyone else feel the same? What should I do? It's taking a toll of my health and my family life...

Don't get me wrong, I appreciate so much and feel very lucky to have a job BUT I am losing all the energy and excitement regardles of the project. Every day I struggle with going back to this consulting work. I just don't have the energy to focus (this is not the case for other things and side hustles). I manage to keep it down and deliver but I fear it's a matter of time until I fail. Trying to find an exit/job but had 1 interview in 3 months. I feel trapped and guilty for feeling this.

I have been faking and slacking for last 2 years. I am not being pushed and challenged at work. Nobody bothers to follow-up on my work. I take my sweet time to do the bare minimum. I took a break for depression and came back . Still I didn’t have the enthusiasm to do the work.Should I just quit and figure out what I really want to do ?

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Just started Zoloft. Can I drink? I know it’s I’ll advised, but will it destroy my liver or just add to the depression?

Anyone gain weight from Paxil?

Why does getting let go feel like dying? I was so angry earlier at having gotten the news about being let go after 2 years and now it feels like I’m being crushed from the inside out.

I know that feedback culture is part and parcel of consulting, and I feel it is contributing to my anxiety and depression. At the same time, i enjoy the problem solving aspects and don’t want to do a career change.
Anyone having the same problem? What have you done to help yourself cope with the culture?