Random Thought: I love my therapist and I just realized the things I talk to her about I wish I could talk to my parents about. Which made me realize, is that why people have such close relationships with their parents and why they call them all the time? Are people actually getting counseling from their parents?

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Same. Even tho mine therapist is my age. I missed out on a lot of nurturing and didn’t know anything about self-care/was resistant to it because the story was that kind of thing is for frivolous or spoiled ppl. Parental love shouldn’t be conditional but in my case it was/is. I don’t think it’s counseling people get from their parents, it’s support without judgements.

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Awww thanks @K1! Good news is I’m in a better place!

I mean that is sort of what made me want to get back into therapy after having stopped after 2016. My last therapist at that time simply sucked and was semi-retired. I didn’t really have experience with therapy or knew what I should have looked for.

I’ll take your virtual hug 🤗

It’s not your fault. I grew up in a Roman Catholic household where I was apparently born a sinner (i.e, guilt) and we weren’t allowed to talk about anything but could only confess to some stranger on Sundays.

Such a lousy, unhealthy power dynamic in hindsight - but hey, we don’t choose where we grow up. Onwards and upwards, my friend.

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For sure. I was just replaying my last therapy session in my head and realized her advice felt like something a mom would say to their child, which got me thinking. On the path towards the future my friend!

Maybe a good topic to ask your therapist

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I shall

My parents and I are pretty close. That being said, there are important things that I want to talk about with them and I want them to understand, that they just don’t. Sometimes trying to talk to them about these things frustrates me and puts a strain on the relationship if I push to hard. I think that the key is to find a couple of things that you can open up and relate on, and build from there. Unfortunately we have expectations of people that they can’t meet, and it’s sad sometimes, but we need to have our emotional needs met elsewhere. So maybe certain things you have friends to lean on, others your therapist, and others family.

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