Any advice for managing an extremely anxious boss? They get worked up about almost everything, and the energy required to manage their responses saps my time and energy for doing the work that needs to be done. I want to be supportive, but it’s hard to not resent the constant whirlwinds of anxiety. Especially when they are jovial with the rest of the team after raging at me about how no one is doing their jobs!

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Don’t feed into it, don’t show emotion back. But over time I’ve found managers that lead from a place of fear and anxiety sap a lot of unnecessary energy, so maybe think about leaving for greener pastures.

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Be neutral. That person is unknowingly using you to let off steam, and your response fuels that. If you become someone that isn’t easy to confide in because you show disinterest in what they say, they are less likely to look to you to complain.

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Yes I’ve heard of that. My advice isn’t necessarily to silent quit, its more about picking and choosing when and how to react to someone who is looking for a reaction.

I had this at my previous gig, and it's really challenging. She'd panic about everything, gaslight, be alarmist. Agree about being neutral. Just try to remain logical in your decisions and communication.

And maybe have a conversation with your boss about how their behavior impacts you and the team.

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Thanks for the supportive comments! We have spoken before about how we are very different, but I do think it’s worth another conversation to ask what I can do to better support them. I really don’t want to leave, but I miss having a mentor and leader whom I admire.

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Went through this recently. I second the comments on having a neutral response. Sorry you are experiencing this projection of toxic behavior, it really is draining. Don’t give them anything to feed off of; they need to be in charge of their own emotional regulation

Dealing with someone with anxiety can really stress you out. However, taking the time to understand their emotions can help you manage things better. But the first thing you should do is to be the first to remain calm.

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