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I just got an offer from EY in London but considering based on what the maternity policy is which doesn’t seem to be spelt out in contract or benefits pdf. Does anyone know a) if there’s a minimum employment period to qualify and b) what the enhanced maternity pay is. I’ve read both 16 weeks and 18 weeks.
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I second what Deloitte 1 said. My parents don’t get along but still live together and make all of siblings life hell. I tried to make peace with it but I realized that was impacting me. I haven’t spoken to them since start of this year. It hurts but at least I am away from drama. This has became daily routine of then fighting and then calling us to bad mouth about each other. Dealt with it for 30 years but I thought this was time for me to be selfish.
I am estranged from my father. It was sort of my decision when I became an adult. What I’ve learned is that you will always likely feel guilty about it (particularly as they age) but if they are truly that extremely toxic for you, then it’s worth it. whether or not that is warranted is an extremely personal decision that you will be judged for either way. Each situation is so unique and difficult in its own ways.
Thanks ladies. I’ve been in therapy for 2 years now trying to unpack this relationship and set boundaries. I feel lately, her behavior has been more erratic since I’ve tried to distance myself more, given we already live in different states and don’t see each other much. At this point, I’m completely exhausted. While I do feel sorry for her, it takes a lot of me every time.
I’ve been estranged from my entire family for 7 years. It was hard the first 3 year but it’s gotten so much easier once I healed from their damage. I don’t regret it for one bit.
I was for many years from both parents. We were both stubborn but we went in and out for many years after our initial incident.
It takes a lot of emotional energy and boundary setting to deal with it. You will have to be honest with yourself about what you can and cannot tolerate. You won’t always know up front so have a good backend system to help catch you emotionally if you have one of those weeks. Professional help is great so you don’t burn out your friends.
We have reconnected and things are way better now. Like any relationship, both sides have to make effort and invest and want to make it work.
Your mom sounds like she may need professional help and undiagnosed something.
I've been estranged from my mom and her abusive husband for almost 4 years now. It was extremely painful in the beginning but in hindsight it was the best decision I made for myself. The thing about estrangement is that it's a process. Something toxic has happened repeatedly and in spite of boundaries being put in place, the offender repeatedly crosses them which ultimately leads to the estrangement. Estrangement isn't something that you just wake up one day and decide to do it, it's a process that has happened.
You mention that she doesn't have any friends and her co-workers don't like her. Do you know why? Is she emotionally, physically, or spiritually manulative?
My estrangement isn't something that I regret. I feel free and have space in my life to have people who respect me and my boundaries. Do I wish things could be different? Of course. However that would require change on my mom's end and that's a change she's not willing to accept and make. However my happiness is not dependant on her actions. The things they did to me are completely unacceptable and unimaginable that one's parents would do. I accepted what happened and decided the best course of action for my own life and mental health was estrangement. I have no regrets. However that is a process as well.
I can only speculate but my perspective is that she inherently has a low self esteem and compensates for it by criticizing and tearing down all around her. She’s convinced all of her coworkers are stupid and unsophisticated. She seems to make new friends just fine, but they never stick around for very long, for the same reasons I assume. I suggested therapy to her many times, but she’s only convince I have issues, not her. So also unwilling to make any chances on her end.
because she isn’t nice person in general. She’s been unhinged my whole life, pulling stunts like stealing my passport to prevent me from moving abroad for work etc. Out of nowhere this week, she’s been sending me emails saying I don’t support her and don’t call her to tell happy stories about my life to make her days more positive, I’m emotionally challenged (direct quote) etc. I
pretty much ignored those provocations, and today she’s showed up at my door step unannounced (she lives out of state), crying. Feel like I’ve had enough at this point and I cannot be her only social outlet and take on the responsibility for her happiness. Anyone else had the experience of cutting their parents out of their life entirely? Do you regret it?
Ugh, so sorry. I’m probably going to be getting married in the next couple of years and this is so silly but I’m seriously wondering if I should just skip the whole wedding thing so I don’t have to deal with them being in the same room together and then all the fallout after.