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Married twenty years with teenage kids at home. We've reached the point where it's predictable. Not literally on a calendar but we both know what Saturday mornings will be like.
Well gents - I just got a nice reminder of what it was like 3 years ago...I just need that every now and then!
C1 - Good god...I don’t know what I would do
My wife is much more into me when I regularly do things for her, especially when they are things that are "her job" at home. You're busy, sure, but spare 10 minutes a day to help your spouse feel like they are still a priority.
Oh and say nice things. Esp when I notice things my wife does that are under-appreciated, but we're maybe hard for her to do - that makes her happy. Happy is good for what you're thinking about. 😉
Following .... When I was talking about this with a friend who has been married for over 20 years, they told me that after going through a long dry period, they’ve stipulated that they have to have sex once a week, no matter what (with the exception of sickness), they just commit to having time to it. I’ve also read in different books a version of the same, but suggesting to commit to more than once a week. You have to make it a priority, at first it will feel like a chore, but the more you do, the more you’ll enjoy it. In my case, I haven’t been able to successfully apply it to my marriage, both of us work way too much, but I’ve also gained a lot of weight in the past 4 years and that has taken a huge toll on my sex drive, as I really don’t feel good about myself and although my partner doesn’t say anything, I’m pretty sure it’s taken a toll as well
OW1 - Great advice
Been more than year since we had sex 😏
Earlier it was about pregnancy, then post partum and now for no reason
I'm in the middle of a lull also... She's 4 months pregnant and I'm just not interested
Watch Chris Rock's special Tambourine on Netflix. As he advises, you just have to force yourself to do it with regularity
D1 - Great ideas
But what do you do when it’s the other way around and it’s you (husband) that it’s not into your wife anymore...
OW1 - why do you think that is? What about her is different? When did you start feeling that way?
She gained a lot of weight. I have suggested that she seeks help (she’s brought up the weight and that is bothering her) I incentivize her to exercise, but there’s a lot going on and she can’t seem to be able to focus on herself and control the weight issue. She has complained about my lack of interest, so it’s taking a toll on us
To be fair, I’ve also gained weight and it also affects my drive... I thought it bothered her too, but apparently not as much. And I have been focusing on losing it
OW1 - That is a tough one - it’s almost like one of those things that you “aren’t supposed” to talk about. I suppose it’s a matter of if she is even Trying or not, mmm I would definitely say you need to start losing weight first, and maybe that will encourage her, and try to work out together perhaps?