As an new associate at the firm, I don't announce to anyone that I'm gay. Everyone asks about my plans for the weekend. Most of them ask what me and my girlfriend is doing. 🤷🏽‍♂️

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Yeah. I’m a pretty private person to start with and don’t want to be thought of first as “the gay guy”. So I don’t really say anything. And just brush off questions like that. Usually people ask “are you married?” And the answer is “no”. Then “do you have a GF?” And the answer is “no” and they just assume I’m single. But then after a while it’s a bit awkward to bring up that I have a BF. As if it’s something I have been hiding. Which is sort of true. I think you can just mention it casually if someone asks “what are you and your GF doing this weekend?” You can just say “oh, my BF and I are going whitewater rafting this weekend “. And word will get out.

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Think they need a little more training on "blind spots"

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I think you should be able to bring your authentic self to work. You might be surprised how accepting people can be.

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Life is much too short to spend it in the closet. I have been so out at work that I might as well have had “gay” stamped on my forehead. Nobody cares. You can talk about your significant other, and nobody will care.

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Same. Just moved to a new apartment and everyone is like “met any ladies yet?”

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Great! Agree, you don’t need to “announce” anything.

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Feel the same way OP!

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@ RSM user 1; I do bring my true self to work. I don't see why I need to go about announcing my sexuality in order to do so.

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I'm not worried about not being accepted but I know it's going to make certain feel bad once I tell them since they've been asking about men for two years now.

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Everyone thinks my roommate and I are dating but then also thinks I’m gay so I usually just say oh we have an open and accepting relationship and walk away. It’s good to have a little mystery

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I’ve struggled with this myself. Some people know. But mostly I don’t think it’s anyone’s business.

I did this too. Never explicitly said "no, I'm a lesbian" when people asked about guys. I would just say "no" because it's a non-issue. But now I feel like I'm to far in and people think I'm straight. It's been two years and I feel like a fraud every time something comes up about this.

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I think in general people (some people) pounce on insecurities. It doesn't matter what the insecurity is- fear of judgement due to sexual preference. Bottom line, if you're not insecure, people won't act as funny.

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