Been alienated by coworkers. Don’t know what’s the reason. But it seems that they don’t ever want to talk to me or invite me to go places with them. How should I address this issue? I am a minority.

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For starters...you should speak with them about it. Two wrongs don't make a right.

With that said, I wouldn't jump to conclusions with your ethnicity.

- Are you new to the team?
- have you been social with your team?

Other times, people are just good friends and it may be weird to include unfamiliar faces in their agenda. I wouldn't take it personally, as not inviting you to their outings does not equate to them not having a level of respect for you.

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Yeah I am very friendly and have tried to initiate both conversation and activities, such as grabbing lunch together. They will go with me but they initiate the invite with me

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Doesn’t seem long enough to warm up to them especially if they’ve been working a long time together. Stay friendly and positive. They should warm up soon

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I wouldn’t think much of it. They’ll come around but use all this free time for personal goals, explore the place, eat out, read so much to do assuming you’re with them mom-thurs

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Have you also tried to initiate?

Not unusual for groups to get clicky.. particularly if they have been on previous projects together.

How new are you to the project?

My second month with them.

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