Caught my director bad mouthing me to a managing director. She was basically gossiping about me and the team. What should I do?

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One of my Seniors is a repeat 5-star but complains incessantly about others from the office when they're not around - even when someone leaves the audit room to use the bathroom she'll find something snobby to say about them while they're gone. It creates a toxic environment, and as a result nobody wants to be in an audit room with her, and those that do get stuck with her don't feel motivated to perform. Keep that in mind when making your decision on how to approach your situation. You don't want to be known as the person that runs their mouth. The implications are far reaching and hard to overcome.

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Cut a hoe

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Call her out. Take no bullshit.

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Don't get mad, but ask her if she has a few minutes to discuss privately. Then talk about what you heard, but say that you want to hear why she said that do you can take the feedback and improve. She'll probably be really embarrassed, but hopefully it will make her act like an adult in the future and talk to your face if she has a problem

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Did she realize you heard?

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Leaving a toxic environment was me of the best things I've ever done.

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Oh hell no! You need to deal with this. If it was me I'd go to my relationship partner for advice.

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Passive aggression is key here

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Ignore it. Don't give gossip the time of day.

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