Been in the BigLaw game a long time but does anyone ever get sick of the ruthlessness of other lawyers in their firms? The backstabbing, bullying, blaming and stepping over everyone else to look good. Sometimes I can’t deal with it especially when it’s from people I thought I trusted. Sometimes I wonder if I had a more alpha male personality if I wouldn’t get treated like this all the time.

I've been thinking about my career a lot lately. I feel like I've hit a wall, and I don't know how to get past it.

I've been at this job for almost 5 years now, and ever since the day I started, there have been problems with my coworkers. It's not just one person—it's everyone in my department, and they all seem to be working against each other instead of together. Should I leave?

Off topic.
Women - what outfits can be considered as business casuals?

My coworker has been really cold toward me lately. Doesn't say hi to me in the morning and always declines my lunch invitations. Should I ask if I did something wrong or should I just see if it blows over?

I am so sick and fed up with some of the older clients at my job. I know it's my responsibility to take care of them, but they're just so sexist sometimes.

To what degree do you share your mental health issues with your team? I went through a period of depression and recently got comments back that I need to fix my attitude. Is it worth mentioning now?

For the last month I’ve been contemplating life. It hasn’t been so much if, but more so when. A director on my team in a different vertical has been pushing me to the brink with extreme emotional abuse and now sabotaging my livelihood; job security (health insurance, financial stability, place to live etc) following months of initiating a flirtatious relationship they finalized a divorce. Just months ago this was someone I saw spending my life with, growing old besides …

Could someone please suggest how to handle this situation?
My manager (Technology Director) sees me as an emerging thread to his position and stopped sharing details / trying to avoid including me in visible projects etc.,
FYI - His manager is the division head and Managing Director.
Why I think my manager tries to move me out?
- I am 18 YOE with a technically strong background
- Upper mgmt is starting to identify me as the backup for all systems. My manager tries to move me out since then

How do you build rapport with your colleagues?

Any advice on how to deal with a partner/boss who is shifting all responsibility to me with zero guidance, no mentoring, and an unwillingness to discuss the issues? (Small firm, only associate under this partner and have been working at the firm for 2 years). There are an increasing number of passive aggressive comments from the partner who expects to be completely hands off once the case lands on my desk. Wants me to figure it all out despite cases being from different areas of law.

I have a direct report who is smart, passionate about her job and can be really innovative. However she carries this enormous weight of responsibility, for needing to do everything, do it right, make sure it's perfect, not trusting colleagues to help. It creates dread and panic and overwhelming workload and a terrible attitude for her and I am speaking with her this week to start to shift her mindset. Any tips in navigating how to let go of this heavy idea of "responsibility"?

I’m in this business to cure my inferiority complex. Making lots of money, working with fortune 500 clients and walking the streets of NYC with a suit, tie and briefcase makes me feel important and worthy.

I often wish I could be like my law school friends who either moved to small towns or have public sector or non profit jobs, wear sweaters and jeans to work and make far less than me, but are happy with their lives, feel a sense of meaning with their work and don’t need external validation.

Scheduling added another S3 (my level) to my engagement but acting as a manager, while I’ve been on this engagement for a few years and getting great reviews. My ego is shot and I’m insulted. Advice?

What are some tips on how to reach out to someone you don't know very well personally, but who works at a company you're interested in working at.

What does everyone wear for client meetings in a WFH setting

Characteristics/actions of the worst manager you've worked with?

Lady fish, how do you handle catty women at the office? Another advisor seems out to get me for no reason-she is constantly catty toward me and every single encounter and I want to stand up for myself

Suggestions for good coffee in midtown? I don't care for the ambience, don't care if there's a little wait time. Just looking for good coffee. My current favorites are Cafe Grumpy and Blue Bottle.

Jummah Mubarak Fam ☪️💚

I just saw that a Hubler watch given to Hitler sold at auction for $1.1 million. It is an interesting watch (despicable as the recipient of said watch was), but it got me thinking about a larger question: does anyone here collect watches owned by the famous (or infamous)?

Manager: “Do that this way”. Manager one month later: “Why did we do it this way? Doesn’t make sense. Fix”

Has anyone tried to get an extension on an offer and they push back?

Which big4 has best deals practice? FDD, M&A tax, etc

What was the hike % last year for a Senior 1 with 2nd rating who didn't get any promotion/progression?

I’m 26 and have ~40k sitting in my savings account. Annual income 140k. Maxing out 401k. No debt. Planning to invest 25k but don’t know where to start. Should I get a wealth manager? What is the best way to approach this?

Looking to change practice area to employment law - tips?

Apparently I can’t message someone until I have a load of ‘likes’. Anyone wanna help a brother out and help me hit those 15 likes fishbowl needs me to have. Thanks! 😀

For an MBA graduate of 2018 batch (new IIM), is 25 lpa current CTC decent or is he underpaid?
2 years of pre mba work ex as well.

I heard @ey Parthenon is good pay master in India..can existing employees verify this please

Does any fish have experience prepping and taking the CAMS exam? I would appreciate any advice on study materials, exam preparation tips, and information about the exam.

About to finish my first year. I’m a specialist. Only going to hit 65% of my hours (took a 4 week vacation cause of wedding/hm).

I never say no to work and i have fantastic reviews, and the head of my practice (with whom I work a lot for) has great things to say about me.

I’ve been fully utilized starting ~June, but first few months were slow. Am i fine?!

Mid 2020, I turned down an opportunity to jump ship from my small law firm to a big law firm. At the time I had 4 years of practice under my belt with managerial experience. I thought the offer was reasonable, come in at a 2nd year level, but with the uncertainty of the times I played it safe. Now I regret it. What avenues do I have, if any, to jump into big law from a small firm?

To the lender counsel that forgot to mention they needed original signature pages for a deal that closed early this year and decided to chase and harass me a day before thanksgiving and a day after thanksgiving multiple times. F*ck you. I don’t know what is driving your lack of courtesy but I have represented the same bank before and know their usual original signature requirement.

Trying to lateral and the conflicts clearance process could not be more frustrating. I'm at the point where I'm becoming resentful and annoyed at my new firm and I haven't even started. Is this indicative of my future experience there or completely unrelated?

Question for funds folks, since no one is around to answer any questions and I can't seem to find this answer anywhere. Why can't a placement agent combine or integrate the offering of interests in the sponsor's fund with the contemporaneous offering of interests in another fund? Is it based on reputational risk or from a sales perspective in case someone rejects both funds, any other issues? Thanks!

Hot take: if it’s actually a stealth layoff then everyone else got the same speech as you and outing the firm won’t identify you.

Does anyone here know any good recruiters for Boston? Not looking to move, but want some intel (and feel awkward reaching out to the recruiter who placed me here).

I’m debating to join Locke Lord Dallas in transactional. I’m looking to stay at the firm long term and would appreciate any information y’all have. Please be as candid as possible.

I’ve made it 5+ years in a NY M&A practice and have consistent exceeding expectations reviews. I’ve had a few mental breakdowns because of work during this time, but thankfully made it through. I’ve been in a near constant depressive/anxious state for family reasons for the last year and half, and am soon having my first kid. I’m scared shitless that I’ll spiral out of control both at work and at home if something doesn’t change soon. Any suggestions on how to keep this job and keep it together?

If we all make a fuss about returning to the office do you think the standard will change?

I lateraled from a small firm to regional big law last year. I was told that my offer was commensurate with class year (5th year). The firm recently increased first year salary, with a 5% increase for all other attorneys. My original salary was equal to the new first year salary. The difference between my new salary and a first year is now $10k. I think it is fairly obvious that the hiring partner was not truthful with me. How would you address this? Is another lateral move my only option?

How often and how do you exercise?

I run 4x4 intervals on a treadmill every 2-3 days, and pushups/hangups/crunches about the same, but somewhat more infrequently. Great exercises to do with little time. In winter I go XC skiing upstate at our cabin every two weekends or so.

If you’re ever feeling like BigLaw is pigeonholing your career, just remember that Rep. Liz Cheney started her career as a project finance associate at White & Case from 1996-1999.

Those of you who have transferred offices at the same firm, how did it go? How did you present the request? I am a junior hoping to transfer from a satellite to a larger market’s office.

After you are stealth laid off, other than job search, what do you do? I assume they won’t give you work and even if they do, you can politely decline? How do you feel about you are not progressing anymore and seeing other people progressing in their career? I have no intention to make partner, but still feel a bit stuck not doing that much.

Thoughts on choosing between Katten, Bryan Cave and Polsinelli? Katten pays best, BC has lower hours requirements and seems more laid back.

To those at V25 firms, how do you view your London office in terms of the quality of work we get and overall importance to the firm? Like is there a perception of us being a step down or ancillary to the big leagues of NYC or not? There’s generally a perception here that L&W and K&E are the only US firms where London can even begin to compete with stateside in terms of generating l work organically but would be interesting to know what you all think? Be brutally honest.

Anyone have any recommendations for a family law attorney in DC for divorce?

After leaving BL, what salary do most people settle at or is that way to general of a question?