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What does the Bible say about marriage and divorce?
Given your situation I strongly suggest you do the reading and pray as you go. Then seek counsel with a pastor (hopefully as a Christian you’re plugged into a healthy church).
One thing you’ll find is there is no such thing as a “Christian marriage,” as all marriages are the same in God’s eyes. It is a sacred institution and not to be entered into or exited lightly.
In general, an anonymous forum like this is not the right place to ask this question. After the Bible, your pastor or an experienced Christian counselor is a much better path.
Rising Star
God desires the church to carry each others burden. If you are being asked to pay for Godly counsel I would pray to ask God to bring the right church folks into your life.
God requires his church to be a place a prayer and you should not be paying money for it.
He says, My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me
Be careful who you seek counsel from.
Rising Star
Greetings sister in Christ, it sounds like you have a good understanding of the scriptures and you are seeking Godly counsel which is a good step to take.
I am very sorry that you are experiencing this turmoil and I will pray on your behalf for contentment in your current state and guidance from the Holy Spirit.
I was blessed to have senior married couples to counsel me prior to marriage which helped me see what challenges were ahead.
God is with you and he uses marriage to refine us all.
Stay prayerful and let God refine both of you, understand you are blessed in your current state even if it doesn’t seem that way.
Thank you so much 🙏
No, it wouldn’t.
Going 50/50 is not a reason for divorce. If you think it is, then you would be choosing money over God. You haven’t mentioned the steps you have taken to handle the in-law situation. Have there been a series of conversations between you, your spouse, and in-laws? Have you gotten a pastor involved in all this?
Have you both been able to go to counseling? If you don’t mind me asking, what culture and faith are your in-laws? It would be helpful if you also got your in-laws involved with a marriage counselor who’s familiar with their background or that can relate them.
General thoughts out loud:
1. Marriage is a covenant. Covenants are legal contracts in the spiritual world. We make a covenant to God when we become true believers. Alternatively, we can make covenants with the devil, other fallen angels and demonic spirits. Bible says we should not make covenants or oaths we do not intend to keep.
2. What is the Bible’s guidance on a man providing or couples going 50/50? Was this an oath your husband took to marry you? Is 50/50 based on man’s opinion/traditions that you are trying to uphold and henceforth you are beholden to the spirit of pride over God’s Word?
What do you mean by doesn’t provide?
What is 50/50 exactly?
What decisions are being controlled?
Rising Star
Dividing the family is a primary tool of the devil. That the devil wants to destroy and conquer.
You must put your faith in God and not let the devil divide your household.
Yes, the man should provide. However, no one is perfect and the marriage relationship will teach you valuable lessons. Above all it’s the love that will get you through the hard times. More specifically, it’s your love for Christ.
It sounds like you may be losing respect for your husband and that’s a lesson for you. Take your marital issues to God and pray over your husband, forgive him.
To be honest this will happen hundreds of times in a marriage.
Blessings it’s not easy but it’s Gods will.
Encouragement to read and study Matthew 6 in its entirety. Finances can be a major point of division due to the false pride and security it gives. Remember who made you, gave you life, ultimately who sustains your very breath and all resources including money. Christ is the richest of all, yet He stepped down from glory, became poor and sin so that we could be saved. Dont forget the main role of husband is to LOVE wife sacrificially as Christ and wifes role is to submit to husband as unto God. Pray and fill your heart with the Word of God not resentment about immaterials