Divorced peeps.

How did you know when it’s time?

My partner is an absolutely wonderful person whom I respect very much - the compatibility and chemistry just have faded away over the years & we don’t seem to have anything in common now.

Feel an overarching guilt for even thinking about this. She stuck around during multiple deployments back when I was active; makes the decision even that more difficult.

We aren’t legally married, BTW (mutual choice), but have been together for 7+ years.

Do any female desis who are married take care of their own parents?

Desi folks! Why do you let your parents manage your profile on the websites? It’s so uncomfortable when you get a call at 4 am saying “beta, we like your profile.” 🤷🏽‍♂️

I still think of my ex. It’s been 9 months since our breakup. He cheated on me and although I walked away and never looked back, I still wonder how life is treating him. I know I deserve better. Sigh.

My friend invited me to hang out with her and her friends because I was feeling very sad about my breakup. Three of her friends end up hitting on me and just really invading my personal space. I honestly thought they had a joke or game of some sort. I tell my friend it makes me uncomfortable because it’s not something I’m looking for atm. She says I should take it as a compliment, but the only thing I feel is disgust that I now have to look forward to guys only wanting me for my body 😔

Alright so I have been with my partner for several years and recently she said that she wants to get married. Im Happy with what we have now and don't feel the need to get married. Why do people get married? People all around us are getting married and engaged and I feel like that is weighing on her but when we drown all that out and it's just us we are happy!

So who here visited the Chicago Yacht Club at Open House Chicago and decided they wanted to grow up to be an old white guy? 🙋🏻

The death of my best friend in combat will forever haunt me, no matter how hard I want to accept it and let it go. I've been remembering every day since I came back. It's so hard to deal with this on my own.

How do you deal with your boyfriend still being friends with someone he slept with before? Kind of bothers me but not sure if it’s normal....

Working Moms/Dads: Do in-house positions exist with flex time hours? I need to be able to leave work at 4pm to pick up my son from daycare, but i can get back online at home to resume any unfinished work at 8pm. Is this realistic to convey to any companies in an interview? Pandemic aside, is face time 9-7pm really important? Or should i just try to find a job with a salary that covers a nanny salary and accept that i will never see my son on weekdays (which would be sad for both of us)? TIA!

3 years ago I distanced my long term love and chose my ambition to complete an MS and create something for both of us in hopes to get back to her as a grown independent man. I lost her for not being there “enough”. Should I regret it? Should i have chosen Love and regretted not achieving my dreams? (We are 27, we fell in love when we were 15) I was a no one back in the day but now it’s totally different, i am debt free, financially stable and ready to settle down.

ADVICE THREAD

Feel like sharing advice? Which info would have changed your life if you only had known back then?

Any kind of advice is accepted 😉

Has anyone found dating having kids challenging?

How do you handle people’s kids showing up on video meetings? Screaming, kicking, hamming it up, (wasting time.) Everyone else is coo-ing…I’m not a kids person. Heard a technique which is to drop off the call bc you “assume the call is over” (which seems like a great way to get fired especially if it’s a way higher up’s kids - plus it feels rather passive aggressive.) Thoughts?

My brother-in-law (age 30) told us recently that he is transgender. How can we support him? (‘Him’ as we haven’t discussed pronouns yet). It was a surprise to us!

People with tiny kids (baby/toddler), how are you coping/entertaining your little buggers? Ours is turning 1 very soon and we have a push trike in the mail, but thinking of inside activities too.

How do people make friends here? I have the ones i grew up with and a couple I made in the last couple of years (neighbors/through mutual friends) but I generally find that people here just stick with their social circles

Wife is twelve weeks pregnant. Just found out we’re having our third boy.

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

For new hire who’s struggling, will going back to office actually makes things better and easier?

How is CGI work culture and Banglore office?

Apple laptop question: starting with Apple next week and just received their laptop, but it does not come with any pre-configured corporate credential. Is this normal that we have to set everything up from the scratch on day 1?

Trying to leave agency life, but unsure of where to go next. Any successful transitions? Where did you go?

Is associate and junior the same? If not, what's the difference?

Thoughts on VCCP London for strategy?

Did anyone lateral into big law? First year in insurance litigation defense and I’m looking to see if it’s even possible to break into big law in a year or two

Never create net new slides. Use past formats to tweak and upgrade

My date won’t share his playlist with me (I can listen to it but he won’t share it). Just curious, is playlist a big deal to guys? We are both at early 20s and only dated for a week

MS in Computer Science vs MS in Analytics

What disciplinary action can CG take if anyone abscond within 15 days of joining?

Anyone in Southwest Florida know of Healthcare worker relief funds that are legitimate? Fort Myers and the surrounding areas were devastated and many critical workers have lost everything. Hospitals are evacuating and staff are moving away from whatever is left of their homes…please advise

I have an offer from
Target Corporation -- TC 30LPA as a Sr. Engineer(Full stack)
And
Rubrik -- TC 30LPA + 750 RSUs as a Sr. Full Stack Dev

Really confused about where I should go,
Target tech stack - CQRS Java Spring boot microservices, React, Postgres, Mongo(The tech stack I am comfortable with)
Rubrik tech stack - Python Microservices, Postgres backend and Angular fronend.(The tech stack I have never worked with)

It comes down to Tech stack and WLB, Where should i join?

What’s the best way to break into life sciences VC/PE from a LS consulting background?

How to avoid returning to office on 1st week of June ? Without straining the relationship with my manager ? Any creative ideas !?

Thoughts on Jones Day?

At how many YOE is it “too late” to recruit for PE?

Anyone have any experience with a good executive coach for a challenging personality? Please help! (Looking for a friend. Quite seriously.)

Have service related PTSD or anxiety effected your clearance level at all?

Tricare Q:

Vets using Tricare with a family. I’m out and can use Tricare with the VA, but my wife and I each use our company offerings for our family; which obviously come at cost. Is it worth it to switch to Tricare? Has anyone done this and can share details? Positives/negatives?

Tis the season: If anyone is cleared and interested in a referral to ☝️, please feel free to reach out.

Any Navy Nukes in this bowl?

How long after transitioning did you start to feel comfortable in your role? Feeling major imposter syndrome in my first 3 months

Any Vets here consulting in the DC area? Thinking about making a move.

My SSBI experience expires next year May, and my investigation is is in adjudication process. What happened my result don’t come back before my investigation expires?

Colleagues, if any of you are interested in helping severely disabled combat veterans get homes adapted for their disabilities, let me know. My wife recently started working for former NFL linebacker Jared Allen and his foundation. We're trying to figure out how to leverage the power of the big consulting firms to help our brothers and sisters in need.

How’s everyone doing?

Accenture is in the full gear military recruitment season. I was hired on through the process a few years ago and it’s been great ever since. They have paths for officer and enlisted. DM if interested

I want to buy a new home and then sell my current home after we are moved out. Current home is a VA loan, is there any way to buy the second house on a VA loan?

I work at a medical device manufacturing plant as a training coordinator, I have a military background and a degree and am trying to advance but am feeling stuck. I am a literal jack of all trades, and am trying to get out of the hourly life, I’m working an average of 100 hour weeks and have been for at least the last 6 months.

Hey Ladies & Gents,

I'm trying to find anyone I can talk to about getting into DISA or CISA. Anyone have any experience with USAJobs and navigating the federal application and interview process?

I’m curious about the enlisted versus officer ratio as well...here’s a way to better survey the group. “Like” your respective group below.

Looking to connect with someone who works in the Atlanta area (remote or in person) for questions regarding SIPR. Additionally, if there are individuals in this area that know of resources to use to find places that are hiring (consulting, tech, startup, etc.) in Atlanta specifically, please drop below. FYSA, I have just over 3 YOE (1 consulting, 2 government) and TS level clearance. Thanks!

Anyone gone through Amazon AWS’ military apprenticeship?

Founded a Nonprofit to help coach veterans in transition and exiting first responders and their families while focusing on changing the stigma of mental health conversation.

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