Does anyone else battle with guilt of working so much that you’re missing out on family time? I work hard for my kid's future but in doing so, I miss out on a lot and I’m worried they don’t understand. I can say I don’t have the kind of relationship I want to have with my family.

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Understandable. Our field of work can sometimes require a lot of us, and it can be easy to get sucked into it.

I’d offer you one thing to think about. Our first ministry, before work, before even things we do in our churches and communities, is our family (spouse and kids), and we must steward our responsibility to our families well. It is honorable to want to work and provide for the future. Having a vision is part of stewarding your family well. But what you don’t want to happen is that years from now, your kids say, “Yes, my parents gave me the resources I needed, but I don’t remember them being present.” children grow up to be adults who remember if their parents were present or not. You’ll always be able to make money; your children are children only once. But also, it’s not fair to expect them to understand why their parent is missing; they won’t because they shouldn’t have to.
Just my two cents. But give yourself some grace. Again, your intentions for working hard are pure and honorable. Praying you’re able to find a healthy balance. 🙂

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