Genuinely curious: how often do you feel truly happy/enthusiastic in your daily life? What exactly makes you happy? I hesitate to self diagnose w “high functioning depression” but I have all the hallmarks. I have no interest in previous hobbies; picked up new ones & got bored very quickly; and though I’m still productive in my job, have friends/a SO—I don’t remember truly feeling happy/excited in a long time. I met therapists who asked me if I think others feel happy/excited all the time(cont

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Daily things that make me happy
- weightlifting: hitting new PRs / feeling strong
- cooking: finding new recipes that turn out to be delicious
- walking outside / hiking without electronics to clear my head
- my dog
- mentoring / volunteering

I used to work in social and decided to take a long break from posting / doom scrolling, which helped. I also turned off all app notifications.

Some people say journaling works, have been thinking about starting that.

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I’m sure your therapist will give you better methods but things that helped me were the correct medication/dose, exercise (both every single day), forcing myself to do my hobbies or go out/interact with friends as much as possible, meditation, dancing in my room like an idiot lol, making lists of what I’m grateful for in life, journaling about who I want to be and be doing in 5-10 years to have things to look forward to and motivate me, and creating a T-chart where one side has my stressors or things I don’t like in my life and the other side is a column where I’ll write the solutions to each problem.

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I have a lot of the same thoughts and feel like I could have written this post. I know adulthood is hard but definitely feel like everyone is a lot happier than myself. Even my SO is generally a more positive person than me and is managing much better through covid and our adulthood. No hobbies that give me joy either. I’m very extroverted so have also found this last year extremely hard. Also aware that as social media has become more popular I’ve fallen into this state of mind even more than previously.

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I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety a few years ago and experienced very similar things (still do sometimes but it’s much better now and those periods are short lived). So it really depends on when you ask me and if I’m either having a down period because of depression or because of things in life or both.

I would say the difference between me (a person with depression) and my close friends (who do not) isn’t that they are happy in their daily life and I’m not - it’s that they bounce back a lot quicker and don’t stay in long term periods of being down, they cheer up when doing their favorite things, they still go out and hangout with our friend group consistently, and when they are down there is a reason - which is not always the case with depression, sometimes life is great but I’m still being sucked into the black hole.

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Don’t self diagnose, see a doc! Mental health struggles are very real and very common. If your arm was broken, you’d do something about it, right? Think about your mental health the same way. There are brilliant doctors, researchers, etc who have come up with medications that will bring back the sparkle, don’t be afraid to try. Best of luck!

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And I honestly don’t know, but I found that question sort of dismissive—as if the therapists thought what I’m experiencing is a normal part of being an adult. Hence my question here. Also, my most recent hobby was traveling, but how’d you stay happy in between until it’s safe to travel again?

PS: My lack of enthusiasm for previous hobbies started 2-3 years ago so it’s not a covid thing

Also think through the other alternates - sometimes it’s a health thing, for me it’s often burnout v. Depression + PMS. I think we lump sum a lot of stuff as “depression” but knowing how your mind works is key to identifying the right treatment + longevit.

For example, I was there 2 days ago, and today I can write this post and give tips. For me it’s more related to PMS + burnout and when I start making time for myself and working out, I see tangible changes. Also when I’m down, I can recognize my emotions and how I feel v. How I think about the world and those around me.
The advice I was given was, when you’re down or increasingly down and you know what you need to do or can logically sort your thoughts, do it. If you can’t or you need help, or even if you just want the extra support, get it! Think of it like getting a trainer for fitness v. Doing it yourself, or deciding when you need professional medical advice v. When it’s just allergies ...only you know the answer, but if you think about it for more than a week straight and don’t know, just get help to find out

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