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[Preface: The following isn’t intended to be condescending in any way. You may already be totally aware and on top of all of the below info. And if this isn’t your first kid feel free to disregard entirely. It’s mostly just the stuff my wife wishes someone had told her leading up to having our son.]
While some people’s experience might allow for stuff like that, with my wife it was a very anxious couple months without much leisure time. She felt really helpless and overwhelmed and like she was supposed to know a million new things every day and couldn’t keep up. And with higher stakes than anything she’d ever done before. Not trying to be an alarmist, and hopefully that won’t be the case for you. Just offering a friendly heads up not to go into it with too many expectations of having a ton of time to yourself. And hopefully you have a partner who understands that they share this new responsibility equally with you. Even if biology drops the majority of “physical” parenting on moms in the beginning, that should be viewed as an invitation to proactively pick up the slack everywhere else. Also, give visitors like friends and non-immediate family clear visiting times with both when you want them to show up and, more importantly, leave. And if they ask if there’s anything they can do to help don’t be vague. It’s way more helpful for them to be assigned brining dinner over next Tuesday than to just come up with something on their own. And it’s
Way better for you knowing dinner next Tuesday is one less thing to worry about
And congrats!
This is totally spot on. Non-parents read the last part. Bring food. Or beer or wine. Or both. Or send people $25 to seamless just because.
I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt even though I instantly want to assume you think mat leave is a vacation which.. oh boy, you’re in for a ride. When I wasn’t trying to sleep or keep baby from crying or changing diapers, I was breastfeeding and watching quite a bit of Netflix (The Letdown is great, as are easy shows that can help keep you awake for the millionth feeds when you’re so sleep deprived that you just want to cry). Everyone’s experience is different, but you are literally in survival mode, not branching it up with friends and trying to learn new hobbies. Your new hobby is trying to keep yourself and baby alive, keep the physical pain at bay, rest, and learn to be coherent on little to no sleep.
My wife’s main hobby for the first 90 days was primarily breastfeeding and trying to nap.
So much pumping
First time, eh?
FIND A MOMS GROUP! I know this isn’t a “hobby”, but if you’re a first time mom, moms groups saved me. I had a winter baby and just needed to get out of the house and meet other people who were as in deep with sleep deprivation, dirty house, and a new body. I used to make fun of moms groups but damn, I GET IT. Find one near you!!
Yes! Was about to post the same. My friend on mat leave with me made a bucket list of places to go (we were both on our second so a bit more relaxed). We took the babies to a chocolate factory tour and to a few places a further drive away.
Also, binge watch a few Netflix, Hulu etc. series.
What an exciting time for you, congrats!!
Before I had my baby, I remember thinking the comments around how exhausted you’d be, how hard it is, etc. were not particularly helpful. It freaked me out and while obviously know one wants to go into it with naive and unrealistic expectations, they always seemed unnecessarily drastic. But I grew to appreciate them after the fact - not because they were accurate but because they made the situation sound SO dire, set the bar SO low, that when I was in the thick of it, it didn’t seem nearly as bad. Are you tired? Of course. Is breastfeeding hard? Absolutely. Do you ever feel like you know what you’re doing? Sure don’t! But women are strong and resilient AF...you will be fine. There are tough days but you’re tougher. Lean on your family and friends when you hit those moments. You got this.
As for hobbies, contrary to what others have said, there is plenty of down time. Just usually smaller increments. Your best bet is probably TV, books, podcasts - things you can easily dive in and out of, with no prep or clean-up required. Also, lots of cities have post-partum exercise classes where you can bring your baby. It’s a great way to get a light workout in and interact with some other moms.
Good luck & enjoy this special time!
OP, are you not a woman? Because your post says "Going on maternity leave."
Nothing prepares you for what’s coming. It’s not meant to scare it meant to make sure you are aware. It’s not easy and it takes months to adjust to the new normal. It’s not me setting a bar it’s the general truth. Some moms in my circle had it a tad easier, but most - the experience knocked them on their ass, including me. It was life altering.
If you can afford a nanny then yeah you will have time for hobbies.
Keeping a baby alive involves lots and lots of just sitting around you jerks.
My sister picked up crocheting if that at all sounds interesting. Super easy to start and stop and fit in a bag on the go.
Reading too!
Currently on mat leave with my second (so I’m much more relaxed about the whole baby thing) and my biggest accomplishment has been catching up on all seasons of RuPauls Drag Race
YOU WONT HAVE TIME TO BRUSH YOUR HAIR! Let alone hobbies. In fact I would say goodbye to any hobby you currently have. Sorry for being so candid. Mom of two here... anyways, congratulations!
Thank you! Watching tv shows while holding a sleeping baby isn't a hobby and none are the very few other things some have mentioned above. The "hobby" notion is kinda crazy
Time for truth. This will be the HARDEST thing you ever do. IMO, the best thing, but the hardest. You are in for the biggest lifestyle change ever. No time for hobbies. Consider it a win if you shower once a day.
I never understood the “no time to shower” thing. Babies sleep. A lot. I was tired, sure, and lacked motivation as a result...but I had time to shower and time to sit around the house being bored. And I was bored. The hard part was the cycle of feeding, changing, sleeping was too short to really ever have enough time to get out of the house without planning ahead. But I found it ever so dull and my hobby was walking around the mall and watching tv while the baby napped.
Parenting can be hard, but infants are pretty boring. Picking up a hobby isn’t a crazy idea. You won’t have time to keep up with it for the years the kid is in daycare and you get 2 hours a night with them before bed at best, but maternity leave? Sure.
Starting my own business.
My sister is currently on leave. something she made sure not to do was just hold up in the house with the baby the entire time. When it makes sense, try to get out of the house with baby or by yourself to meet friends, run errands, etc.
Sleep, going for walks, watching tv.
That’s funny!
2 AM diaper changes are the best. Also, even though my kid sleeps past 7 am these days, I still wake up at 4:30 am to exercise and go swimming. That's a positive as, before my baby, I've never been a morning person.
Yep. I’m wide awake at 5AM these days, regardless of if kiddo is up that early
I wouldn't know because I'm not a mom, but I would love to write a book when the time comes for me. If time allows, why not?
The first three months of having a kid was the most exhausting thing I’ve ever gone through. And I’m a dad. I didn’t have to recover from pregnancy and labor and I didn’t have to breast feed. It’s so, so hard.
1. Congrats
2. If at any chance you happen to feel bored while on maternity leave, just enjoy it and so something you love because it won’t ever happen again.
I had no clue about babies until I had one. Spent the first couple of months getting used to my baby, trying to change his days to nights/nights to days and having lots of mid-afternoon 90s inspired dance parties with my husband and baby when it all got too much. Oh, and I watched the first 10 seasons of Law & Order SVU cos it was middle of winter and way to cold to walk a baby around the neighborhood
Omg. Same. So much tv.