Have you worked with passive aggressive colleagues / peers before? How do you usually deal with them?

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I've found completely ignoring what they said, like they literally said nothing, pisses them off the most.

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Yes, all the time. As a woman I get this a lot and my reaction ranges from calling them out on the spot, telling someone else (Partner/counselor) or giving them back the same energy. I don’t think there is one approach that fits all but one thing I learned is that you shouldn’t submit to their aggressiveness and make them feel that it’s ok or give them a chance to have power over you.

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I’m currently in a situation where it’s not impacting me beyond being a mild annoyance (motivational podcasts will do that for you) but as you pointed out, I feel like it’s giving them power. What’s an example where you’ve called someone out on the spot? I’ve tried to level with this person and it went horrible wrong - I had to remove myself from the situation because I didn’t want to rise to their reaction.

Kill them with kindness. Make a point of turning the situation if possible to a friendship. You might make a new friend or worst case scenario you will drive them crazy as they will not know how to react😀

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