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Congrats on your pregnancy!
First and foremost - your feelings and anxiety is def common so you’re not alone and it’s totally valid. I would say two things..
1. Many doctors won’t sign off on a c section unless medically necessary, but you probably can find one who values and prioritizes mental health and the affect that this anxiety can have on your labor. So if you want to go this route, I would start there, it may take a few tries to find the right doc.
2. C sections are just as natural as vaginal birth, despite how some may phrase it - in case anyone tries to tell you otherwise and dissuade you
3. Regardless of which way you go, I would encourage seeking out mental health professionals to get you to the root of this anxiety so you can make the best decision for you and your baby. C sections carry additional risks and complications and are major abdominal surgery - they are not “the easy way out” (not that you’re saying they are, but have seen it described that way by others so I like to head that off). So if you choose a c section you want to be fully informed of the decision.
I was terrified of a vaginal birth but:
Had a weirdly great vaginal birth experience with my first. I got an epidural and it was actually a relaxing, surreal, and all around not bad experience.
My second birth was a c-section and I did not like it at all. Recovery was MUCH harder and I ended up having an anxiety attack while on the operating table.
I mean. I hear that from time to time. But is there any predictor of if it will be smooth or terrifying vaginally??
A lot of doctors also take into account if you want c sec or vaginal. Whatever you choose, each has pros and cons, in my case- baby was breech… so doctor scheduled a c sec, sometimes they also do it based on bab’s size. and I educated myself on recovery. I was fine in 10 days…
If you keep enough gaps between babes - ideally 2 years, you can consider having a VBAC so not like you’re stuck to c sections. I totally get the anxiety. I had the same way, luckily baby left me w no choice :). Although having said that, I changed two doctors during my pregnancy and both were very open to keep my preference as a priority..
I recommend the book “ your baby, your birth” it comes in audio book as well. It helps with your mindset and gives you tools to prepare for either vaginal or caesarean. From personal experience, the recovery from a vaginal delivery is far quicker than c-section so you may not want to view it as the ‘easier’ option.
The way I think about it (was pregnant recently but sadly lost it) is that I could probably handle almost anything for a day. With the miscarriage I was really worried as cramps are bad and you could bleed but with pain relievers and all that it wasn’t all that bad. So now, even though I’m a total hypochondriac, I feel like I could handle it, it’s only one day, and yes it could get a bit dicey, but then you have a baby for the rest of your life.
Hello.......I have an energy healing business....and we could work on the anxiety you are feeling about vaginal birth. You can email me through my business email at hopecerda@ccceccoaching.com
Lol what a scam! “Energy healing”