Hey I’m coming here to ask about how AuDHD affects you in relationships and your advice… I’ve struggled to date and have spent a lot of time on my own. I get scared to commit but I’ve met a guy who’s really patient, has been there for my diagnosis etc but sometimes he can trigger me without realising like yesterday he was trying to hug me when I needed space and when I communicated my needs he responds well, but I keep feeling like I don’t deserve to be with him if I’m like this😪

Case 1: complaining about a date insisting on picking up the check as it makes them feel less independent.
Case 2: agreeing on 50/50, then being upset about why the date never picks up the check or treats them after 3 months of dating

In both cases, posted 5 days apart, they were advised to find someone else as it seems their date doesn’t respect their values (case 1) or value them enough to spend money on them (case 2).

Well, just 🤯

33 M.. any f in CT wanna connect .....

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After watching Arpana and her attitude in Indian Matchmaking, purani kahawaat yaad aagayi...
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What exactly counts as ghosting . ?
You go on a date spend quality time , you have some intimate moments and the next thing the guy does is unmatch you on the app without sending a text.
Does this count as ghosting ?
Is expecting a text from other person saying " this is not what he is looking for " is too much to ask ?
This kind of behaviour puts other person on the self doubt mode.

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Is everyone on a date, I’m still working 🥹

I'm not sure what else I did other than being respectful and not giving flip at the same time but (4) mature ladies in my office flirt with me every chance they get. Some of my M colleagues are beginning to notice and giving the prod. I must confess it comes with some perks as I do appreciate how fast they process my requests/orders which a M colleague literally told me is biased. Recently one of them offered to bring me her cooked food and asked that I do the same..(Cont'd)

Being ghosted by someone who I thought was genuine. We were seeing each other for over a month (I know it’s not long), but everything went so well until he just disappeared completely for a few days. It’s not my first time being ghosted, I was ghosted by a guy who I was dating for over a year. I tell myself if I can get over that, I can get over this. But it still hurts so much right now 💔 I could use some extra support today

Are the standards for what makes a black man or woman an attractive person for a potential relationship or marriage material the same for white men or women? Do we judge all 4 groups (black man, black woman, white man, white woman) the same?

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I feel I’m fairly compensated, but sometimes I feel like everyone else is making more

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How do I deal with this?

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The Wayfair human trafficking conspiracy is pretty wild 🤔

Is USCIS closed temporarily? Are they still processing h1b extensions?

Hi ,

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How do you deal with the following - 1) lack of general organization in life, note taking, keeping track of your relationships and 2) attention to detail. These 2 things have been bothering me a lot. We all are smart as hell but silly mistakes such as spelling mistakes, broader checks to be done on the deck is killing me. Also I feel the lack of organization in personal life blows into professional as well. If you are a consultant how do u deal with it ?

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As someone with ADHD, have you ever asked for adjustments to the interview process (PST, case interview, etc.)?

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That moment when you don’t remember if you took your Adderall so you take one just in case 🙃

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Here is my dilemma: I was passed up for manager promo last year and rightfully so a lot of my feedback was definitely correlated to me not properly handing my symptoms causing a good bit of inconsistencies in my performance especially if I lacked interest. This year I’ve crushed it and switched up projects off of ones that I’ve long been on. The few people who “advocate” for me seem to be stuck on things that seem either 1) so unsubstantiated and show that they are too far detached from the …

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