How did you manage sleep with new borns and work? Any tips?

Have you been able to spend more time with your kids during the pandemic? How?

I never do this but I need some objective advice. My wife is 5mo pregnant and my sister is getting married. Wedding was adjusted because of COVID but she set the date knowing I might not be able to attend as I’d have to fly there. Now I’m conflicted because if I attend, I’d have to quarantine for 2 weeks away from my wife and miss a couple DR appts. I’m her only support where we live. Would be stressful for her but I’m getting immense pressure from my parents to attend the wedding. Advice?

I got an email last night from a 7th-grade parent because her son said I mentioned the words "male privilege" in class, and she is very concerned about how that is related to ELA (she said "reading"), and she is concerned about this being taught in public schools. To be clear, I didn't do a lesson on this subject but we did discuss rights versus privileges. I've had multiple parents contact the school/get upset with me because of things like his. It's exhausting... Thoughts?

I find it disturbing that people all of a sudden think remote work = 1/2 work 1/2 care for children

Need advice and help.

I have realized I grew up in a household where my dad did not treat my mom as an equal. He belittles her, is rude and convinced his way is the only way.

It is painful to say, but some of this shows up in me and in my relationship. I am starting to catch myself, and it to me seems to be more of a reaction than anythjng that is ever intentional.

Wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar, and any success in making changes besides therapy. Cont. in comments

Ladies, did you change your last name after getting married? I’m worried about the impact it will have on my publications.

Most South Asian names seem to be anglicized in the US. Since it seems inevitable, any new parents have experience with getting ahead of the curve & going with an anglicized version in birth cert?

If you could go back and start over would you still choose this path? Or would you choose a different career and/or a different time to have children? I accidentally became a working parent in law so while I love my job and my children I don't think I would have planned it quite like this.

Single child on H1 B in US
How do I get my old parents to stay with me without every 6 months travel back to India?

Is there any legal way to have them stay with me as long as I am here?

I've been so lucky to have tons of friends giving me hand me downs but it seems like it might be too much if I accept everything. What are the absolute necessaries that I should accept multiples of and what can I pass on?

Today is my first day back at work (and first full day back in my physical office) after a few weeks off for parental leave. Needless to say, I am struggling to stay focused on anything other than wanting to go back home to my spouse and child.

I know I shouldn't take an emotional temperature on day one, but it has been more difficult being back than I anticipated. Any tips for navigating the waters for the first day/week/month back?

I am a straight , but I kid you not…

When did you know your firm wasn't right for you? I'm not sure if it's just the stress of being a new attorney with a family or if my job isn't the right fit. I work in civil litigation and am consistently below my billables. I can't stay late because my kids need me and I can't work on the weekends because I have to maintain my house and take care of my kids. I'm being constantly told to work harder, stay later, etc but it's not practical. Or am I not approaching this with the right mindset?

Very curious to get folks' perspectives on having kids at 30 vs. 35 vs. 40? Context: I'm 27 and am leaning towards 35ish age range for first kid.

As a divorcee with a kid, i find it extremely hard to find friends who can relate, or even making friends as it seems there’s a stigma attached to you because your relationship didn’t work out.

I just got my client divorced from a truly horrible person who abused her and her children and she got everything she wanted and the kids are doing great and only one hasn't been successfully discharged from therapy and I'm just so proud of her and feel so lucky that I got to do a little to help her along the way

My wife reads nearly an entire book per day just in her spare time after work, no exaggeration. I’m amazed by her and wondering what ideas are out there to monetize her skill? Book editing maybe?

Help!! My bestfriend is doing two months abroad and was trying to fly into turkey when they told her she couldn't because her passport expired within three months.

She went to the US Embassay in Athens knowing she had a month left of traveling, and gave her an emergency passport and punched holes in her exsisting one. Now no country will let her in with her emergency passport.

Can her mom get her a passport in the US and ship it to her? Is there anyway around this?

Thank you!!

URGENT
Hi everyone! My brother recently moved to Pune and is looking for a place to stay. Actually he needs a place to stay for just 1 month. And no PG is providing him a room for 1 month. If anyone knows any such PG or guest house or anything that allows 1 month stay please let me know.
I'll be very thankful to you.

What is the salary package for Technology Analyst for 3.2 YOE in Infosys?? Is it a good role ? Kindly suggest

Guys please help. Trying to decide Breitling vs Omega. The models I am looking are the two below. Cost about the same.

Hi WBS (watch bowl savants), I’d like to start a dialogue on how we can effectively use this forum for buying and selling.

Or if you’d prefer we keep this sales free.

Hi all,

Need genuine opinion.
I have experience of 6 years in performing sast/dast and also managing a small team
Should I take next role in core pentesting as a senior tester or
Lead role to manage security of applications and junior pentesters ?
Let's say I do pentesting for another 2 years, Does core pentesting experience will add more value to take up lead role later?

Best part time certification for data analytics so I can get out of tax? I need something that is recognized so I can get a job...

Looking to pivot into pm from teaching. Working on the Google PM cert. Any tips for breaking in?

Hi Fishes,
I have an experience of 6 years in Production and Application Support. I have worked as middleware administrator as well for Jboss and Weblogic.
But due to the diminishing demands of the role in IT industry , I am planning to switch my career in Devops or AWS which would help me grow.
But I am not sure without any practical knowledge, will I get a job at this many years of experience in a different profile.
Do companies hire for AWS profiles with good packages at beginners level?

Hi fishes I need your help. I joined a company 3 days back. Onboarding is completed. Now I have got offer from an organisation that is near my home town and ctc is also more. I want to join there. What should I do. FYI I checked service history in uan portal my pf account is not created yet for new organization. Need your humble opinion.

Any tips on studying for BCPS without residency, just several years of hospital experience?

Been working in RPA for over 2 years as a consultant/senior consultant. Thinking about leaving it as I do not see a future in it at all. What kind of position could I pivot to? Anyone left RPA

What are good exit opportunities that exist for someone who has worked 1 yr as an analyst at a boutique firm?

I have an offer from Wipro for apple account as Lead Engineer (Site Reliability Engineer). Can anyone tell me how the project is for apple account? Does they have on-site opportunities for Wipro emplo… more

Hi fishes, need urgent advice. How is the HDFC Index Sensex Plan? I have invested 75K but it's in loss as all others. Should I continue to average it out or stop investing in it? The loss is higher in this compared to other funds.

Do you guys factor in how far your parents live when looking to buy houses? My folks are here but I'm thinking of buying in Louisana. Scared to leave them though, haven't ever lived more than an hour away from them 🥲

Hi All, I request you to please help me with my query. I have joined capgemini three weeks back. They told me direct project but they tagged me to bench.

According to current scenario, what would be the timeline in bench to get the project. I got an mail to get the project within 30 days so If I am not able to get it , is there any consequences on it. Please help me my queries.

How are hours in CMAAS?

Hey how was everyone’s week?

What’s everyone’s top five quick nutritious meals for your kiddos? I feel like my kid has been eating the same five meals forever. Need fresh ideas. Much appreciated!

Hi SP’s! Anyone here have experience with telling their child about the divorce and how he will never have certain things (like daddy sleeping over or mommy sleeping over) etc? I really need some guidance right now. Feeling really broken as my son (5) is constantly battling his feelings of wanting to be with mommy vs daddy. He often tells us, “when I’m with mommy, I miss daddy. When im with daddy, I miss mommy!” And would often cry bc he can’t have us both. We try to co-parent and be in (cont)

Hi single parents! How do you cope with being the NOT preferred parent? They say a mom and son bond is unbreakable but my son always chooses his dad 🥲 no matter how hard I try for our relationship, he always misses his dad even if they spent the whole week together. I love that their relationship is strong, but still hurts to know he’s fine without me but not his dad!

Hey fellow SPs! How are we doing this week? Sending some good vibes your way! We got this!