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“I want to be friends but don’t want to date you”
It doesn’t really matter what you tell him because as long as you continue to talk to him, he’s going to think he has a chance.
Just tell him. I would want that. Sucks at the time but better than all of the ambiguity and feeling (regardless of your intentions) led on, only to either never know or to get the “just friends” speech later after all that.
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I once told a guy I was strictly looking for friendship and nothing more. He agreed to it only to propose to me a few months later. As someone said above, idk why but guys always think they have a chance despite saying no. 🤷♀️
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I caught feelings for a close friend, kept it to myself, and only told her because I needed to set some boundaries (some sexual convos, and that we shouldn’t have them lol )
She took it fine, and I was good being just friends. However, I think me having that convo with her removed some of the tension since we were more open about things. Then she also caught the feels and now we’re in a weird pseudo-relationship
But I agree yeah a majority of the time it’s guys getting a no, deluding themselves into it one day being a yes, and then getting mad when it never happens.
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You tell him roughly that. Mention the qualities you like about him to soften the blow to his ego. And consider whether or not it makes sense to do that in person or not. Some may react very badly so in some cases, text or phone is actually better.
The sad thing is that, once this conversation happens, there’s a good chance he won’t want to stay friends. It sucks, but they can’t do platonic friendships the way we can. I have stayed friends with some though after this conversation so it’s not impossible.
Tell him and be prepared to not be friends 😂
Not going to work unless you are able to wingman/woman for him. Any friends you want to set him up with? He’ll move on once he knows you’re not interested. Time is precious these days.
All right bye girl. Glad there’s nothing else you can share - don’t want it
He already has a lot of friends so no thank you.
Just tell him you’re not interested in a romantic relationship but would like to be friends. Maybe he’s cool with it and maybe not. I was dating to get married so I wouldn’t have been cool with it, but not everyone has the same mindset.
I am interested in a platonic friendship
Why is he in the friendzone tho lol
Yeah imo how they treat you is arguably the most important and a good one is rare. Have you tried kissing, cuddling or handholding? How you feel with that could be a good indicator of sexual compatibility. If you really feel nothing after a few more tries, then I say call it quits. But you may be surprised in a good way if you stay open to the idea of it. Being attracted to your SO is also very important but attraction usually grows as you get to know someone if it's the right person.
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Do you have to? If one of my female friends had opened our friendship like that it would feel weird and awkward. Like it's generally not a hard thing to intuit unless you were sending signals before or you really think he's getting feelings.
I’ve been friends with others I’ve dated .. but I think I told them on the first date itself I wasn’t feeling it. We’ve gone out for 3-4 dates now