How do you deal with difficult coworkers who are not on your team? I hate to have to be petty but will gladly make it a point to be that way if necessary, sadly for better or for worse

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I think I'm like you in the sense that I tend to match their energy. I'm always amiable until I'm given reason not to be. There's one member of sales that always seems to bring out the worst in me. She's very demanding and accustomed to getting her own way, and I just cannot bring myself to play nice with her. The thing is, her asks aren't that outrageous and I'd be happy to help if she wasn't so insufferable, but she is, so I'm equally mulish in return. "You get more flies with honey" type of thing.

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I’m the SAME WAY. There’s a few people in my org that just aren’t willing to collaborate well. It’s not that hard. So I find myself playing hardball with them way too often sadly.

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