How to accept the that no matter how much you work hard or achieve, you will always remain behind someone ?

Can't get over the fact that friends who were so dumb in school are earning so much more just because they were given good projects and tech in their career very easily and someone who work hard and much more talented but stuck in bad tech and projects which hinders their growth.

Isnt it bad luck.

Have you been able to spend more time with your kids during the pandemic? How?

I’ve been with my bf for 18 months and we have not said ‘I love you’ to one another. I keep hearing about how the best/healthiest relationships are a slow burn, you’re friends first, grow to love each other, etc. I’ve never been in a relationship as emotionally slow as this one. It feels like we are friends who sleep together. I can’t tell if it’s healthy or if we just have no emotional spark. Idk... I feel like wanting romance is not a bad thing, right?

My brother is going through some really intense chemo so him and his wife are often recovering at their house for a week without going out.

Since they can’t take any visitors I would love to send them some sort of at home activity kit (wine tasting or anything!) to keep them busy during these lockdown weeks.

Please share any suggestions you have below! No limits in terms of activity or budget. I have about 8-9 weeks that I plans to cover.

Thank you!

Would anyone consider their senior colleagues to be their genuine friends?

It’s been 3 years since I (27F) moved to Seattle and still don’t have a solid social circle. Not necessarily a big group… I’m talking 3-4 friends who are easy going and not flakey/ hard to make plans with.

Idk if it’s due to Covid, Seattle freeze, a combination of the two or other factors. Any transplants out there who are NOT the outdoorsy type and feel the same? And if so, how did you get past it?

Hadn’t noticed this sub before, and most of the threads are old so thought I’d ask a follow up - how has everyone been handling parenting with public accounting? I’ve got a toddler and my wife is an accountant (industry), and we only have a few immediate family in the country- but they have health concerns. Busy season was rough, things are looking better now as things return to normal. Still working crazy hours if you count the daycare duties on top of utilization targets.

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

Has anyone quit their job because of a relationship? I started my job 3 months ago and now my employer wants me to move to NY. The thing is, I fell in love during the pandemic with a friend that I have known for 3 years. It's frustrating since I know I could continue my job from home. I would honestly quit my job and wouldn't mind the job search again.

Best self-care tips for dealing with loneliness/sadness this time of year? This is my first Christmas without my mom and it just feels like nothing will ever be the same again 😭. If you’ve lost a parent can you give me advice on getting through the holidays? Being a parentalish figure to my students is both healing and heartbreaking.

Hi! Have any here gone the natural cycle IVF route? What was your experience like? Did you have success in growing your family this way? Would you recommend it to others?

Anyone in DFW want to do something this weekend? Just moved here and I have no friends here 😢

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

Friendly reminder that even in a national quarantine, you still shouldn’t text your ex.

Has anyone else talked to a doctor about stress while trying to conceive? I’ve been having a really hard time wanting a baby for the way my husband and I have been arguing or talking to each other. I think we should go to counseling. I know I love him and I know he loves me- there’s just so much animosity so much anxiety around discussions. Do you think our anxiety or tension is because we have not been able to conceive?

I used to be so devoted to my academics that I kind of forgot to make some close friends. How do you reignite your social life after college?

My ex bf hooked up with my gay best friend

My wife is using my credit card too much.
Monthly around 13K.

Everytime I confronted her the ending is always the same, I loose the argument and end up paying everything.

Anyone good marketing books recommendations or online certifications?

Hi All.....I have accepted TCS offer (41lac ...11.7yrs experience).....my experience has been nice so far (interview / hr discussion)....however there is so much of negative comments on TCS here....I am kind of confused..... my priority is WLB.... is situation really that bad? 😀...... some genuine feedback would really help....Thank you

Hello Fishers,

In TCS, My base location is Hyderabad and nearest office location is Delhi. As WFO started I want to join nearest office but dont have Icard. HR is saying that Icard will be available only from base location.
What should I do now?

How much is your firm giving for wfh accomodations?

Just landed a full time gig, looking to get some furniture so I’m not working on my parents’ kitchen table during this remote period. Any recommendations for desks and chairs? I’m hoping to find something that’s easy to assemble and break down for when I need to move, and something that won’t cost an arm and a leg.

I know everyone has a different kind of setup that works for them. I currently have a laptop, drawing pad, second monitor, and a desk riser.

Hello, I need advice please.
After more than 9 months of applying for jobs (lots of rejections, ghosted multiple times), I finally was able to secure 2 offers. I need help now deciding between those offers please:
- A reinsurance company:Title: Reinsurance Closing Analyst, Salary: 60K base + 10% annual bonus (depending on the company performance OR mine), Hybride: 3 days in person office, 2 days remote, commute: 35-40 mns plus $7 tolls. SEE REST IN COMMENT

Ramadan Mubarak Everyone!

27F, Midwest, looking for someone raised in the states/Canada ideally, practicing Sunni, don't drink/smoke, non-hijabi. Lemme know if you're interested or know someone that might be!

34 F, looking for fun loving simple guy for something meaningful.

Venus has entered Pisces. Hope it brings us all some sweet relief and ethereal magic. Especially the water signs and earth signs which it trines and sextiles. ✨

Zoom meetings have been fantastic. I can highly recommend my home group SOS. 7:30 daily. Great way to get grounded as you start your day.

Today shit blew up so much on my two gigs all I could hear for hours was the constant barrage of pinging noises from outlook, gmail, slack and teams. Like some kind of hellish tech sounding symphony. I will probably go to sleep tonight with pings, clicks, chimes and whooshes echoing in my head into the void. Seriously y’all how do we not lose our fucking minds?

Hey All,
I finished a third round interview, and HR contacted me that afternoon saying I had positive feedback across the board and they would contact me the next day regarding next steps. It’s been two days and they finally get back to me saying they haven’t been able to sync with the hiring manager but will keep me posted. Honestly I wish they would talk with the hiring manager and then let me know the decision instead of checking in. It’s messing with my emotions.

What do I do if I’ve only worked one job (the one I’m currently at) and another company is asking for references? I could do professors from college but not sure if that’s a good idea. I wish I could give my current manager’s contact but I don’t want her knowing :/

What is the drug culture like at your office? I assume people don’t openly talk about what they do in their free time if illicit, but they may do so quietly or you can otherwise tell.
Do you get the impression many people do them? If so, soft drugs (ex - weed)? Hard drugs? Non-prescribed study drugs? Frequency? At work-sponsored social functions? To an extent that it’s noticeable/problematic?

What gift did you get your spouse on your wedding day?

Hi fishes, got an offer at ITC infotech. My current position is TL with 11 yoe at JPMC and ITC infotech has offered IT Consultant IS2, which the HR claim to be equivalent to Lead but individual contributor. Is that true?

Hi Folks, Does anyone here receive revised OL recently from Cognizant after accepting their first one, and that too without doing any negotiation.

Thanks

Hi fishes,
What is the B1 consultant grade in capgemini?

Which one is preferable to join from the below list.
1. HCL - 24 LPA (21F), Senior Tech lead
2. CAPGEMINI - 23.5 LPA (21F), Manager role
3. PUBLICIS SAPIENT - 21 LPA (FIXED), Senior Automation Consultant

YoE - 9 yrs

I cleared my first round on Infosys. They scheduled another call for 15mins(hr round probably). I also got a mail to send the documents and asking of my expected package. Now I got a mail saying that I was rejected. Anyone know the reason?

Hi everyone. Is there someone who can shed some light on how’s Huron Consulting - work culture / compensation / flexibility at work? Does it make sense to make a switch from IBM to Huron?

Hello All,

After joining a new company i got another offer from CG with good package,
Current company is a product based company and CG is a service based company can i ask the present employer to hike my salary as I got another offer with good hike!

Deloitte India or Accenture?

Recently joined Accenture but not at all happy with project. Please suggest if it will be good move to switch.

What should i expect for 2nd round interview of legato..The HR mentioned its both technical and managerial so not sure what to expect

After having lunch around 1-1:30pm , I get very drowsy and feel an extreme urge to sleep. Is it wrong to sleep for like an hour in the afternoon during working hours. I can extend my timing in the evening to compensate. What do u fishes think about this?

Anyone from Strategy& India available for chat?

I have cleared my first round of CTS this monday. 1. When can I expect the call of the cts HR....
2. What should be my CTC demand to CTS?
YOE 16.5 year present CTC :27 lakh skill.set: Oracles epbca and fccs...

How much time does SS&C EZE software takes to release the offer?

Where should I go?

Mphasis 18l (17.1fixed)
Pegasystems 14.3(13.3 fixed)

Tech - Pega

Any tips on how to negotiate for a better pay? My hike is due in the current organisation. They are not even agreeing to match that hike

I got offer from Infosys, TCS, Xoriant. Which company should I join. I am 8.8 year of experience in Mainframe

CTC
TCS - 15 lakhs
Infosys - 15 lakhs
Xoriant - 19 lakhs

hi folks.. what level does a Principal Consultant in Infosys Consulting map to. Is it a director level role , if mapped to an equivalent delivery role?