I didn't know this was going to be a problem but it is currently the hugest one. Is it just my Indian mom or are all moms this way?

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Had this with my mom as well, and we’re white.

I planned the wedding by myself though, so she had limited exposure to my decisions. The one major meeting she was part of though, she disagreed on everything and voiced it during the meeting, but then realized she was in the wrong. But yes i think them being a different generation leads them to have different opinions - on top of any other layers of reasons, like culture, that exist.

Some moms are more controlling than others. My mother had a lot of opinions for my wedding but I have ignoring most of them but I am not from a culture where I am expected to give into everything my parents want.

Your Mom…is always right…maybe

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