I don't think I'll ever be having a family with kids but totally jealous of parental leave/days off. Is that normal?

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You watch my kids and you can have my parental leave. Sound good?

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If they want someone to stare them down and not feed them, sure haha

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Yes. I deserve extra PTO for NOT having kids.

What helps with the jealousy:
Count your money
Sit down in the evening and enjoy peace and quiet
Go out for a spontaneous night out or weekend away and not have to worry about the kids
Buy a white sofa
Sleep in on the weekend
Have uninterrupted sex
Count your money again

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I lost it when I read “buy a white sofa” 😂😂😂

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From a grass is greener standpoint, yes it’s normal. Most of my friends on parental leave aren’t exactly getting a vacation though lol

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People nowadays just want to be entitled to everything. What now, when people go on a disability leave because they broke their spine are you jealous and would like to have that too? Well those people are getting a freebie and not benefiting the company. What’s wrong with people these days, maybe we should stop having children if this is what we are breeding….

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I’m on parental leave right now. This is nothing to be jealous of.

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Best wishes to you on the new chapter though!

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I think that those who choose not to have kids should also get some sort of paid something. And also there should be a cap on how many times parental leave can be used. I know of a couple of people who think they are a clown car and literally are getting 4mo per year plus normal PTO away.

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Clown car took me out 😂😂😂

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I’m in the same boat. I stopped being jealous when I thought of all the expenses I don’t/won’t have.

That said, I’d love a benefit where every X years of service you get a paid sabbatical.

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That sounds like a great idea. Or some sort of non-parents day off.

Yea queen, u normal all daaaaaay

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Yasssss! 🙌

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Let's switch! Being awake almost 21h/day and no solid 6-7 of sleep ain't easy

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That’s a good point.

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Be like Carrie Broadshaw and have a wedding with yourself ❤️

I’m fully with you, it’s somewhat unfair the unrelated “perks” parents get just for being parents.

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Always find it interesting when people expect benefits and perks to be ‘fair’ and an individual level. That’s a zero sum game. Most employers just offer programs based on what will retain the best talent and generally, there is something for everyone but not everyone will use every program.

You may not use parental leave, but I’m not using tuition reimbursement or student loan repayment programs. You also get access to the same guaranteed 12 weeks of job protection for a whole host of reasons beside parental leave. Take a mental health LOA. Plenty of people do it.

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I always content with - if you want different perks, find a company that offers them.

The company I worked for when I had my kid didn’t have paid parental leave. Given the industry we were in, I had stupidly assumed we did. Didn’t ask because when I joined, it wasn’t on the horizon. I learned it when I was already pregnant. Not because they told me, but because a woman in my office returned to work just six weeks after having twins.

I put my notice in shortly after my leave was up and cited the lack of parental leave and lack of industry standard PTO as some of my reasons. They countered hard and also made a promise to reveal a better policy if I stayed. I said I’d think about it.

A week later, they had a company wide meeting to announce an unlimited PTO policy that would overlap with any FMLA leave type. I still quit, but felt like I did some good before I left.

I know people feel like unlimited PTO is a scam, but many orgs implement use it or lose it policies with meaningless accrual schedules anyways.

Ever spend a day at home with a sick toddler? Up all night - projectile vomiting…fun,fun, fun I can see why you’re green with envy.

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How about a leave if I have pets ??

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Those companies are the real MVPs.

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You can be jealous, sure, but it’s not a vacation.

Also, kids are a societal good. Without kids… no more society. Supporting the next generation is a benefit for everyone. In America, they just outsource that responsibility to private employers.

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Tbh, I much rather have a set start and finish time to my day than be awake around the clock taking care of a new born. Thus, why I don’t have kids. Shout out to all the parents out there trying to make it.

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Yeah OP, if course this makes perfect sense and it’s not just entitlement talking. Let me tell you, you would hate Europe 😅

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I want the leave without the kids lol

Yes, I was just thinking about this yesterday. This is not a world for single people.

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