i have a group of girlfriends that i have been close with since birth. as a result, i’ve never really had STRONG personal connection to any of them individually…in addition, i moved away from them and they all hang out and live together in the city by our hometown. whereas i have no other close personaly friends in my own city.

it’s going to be so awkward to choose one person to be my maid of honor. but i guess i have to..? my husband has his best man selected easily.

I'm an engineer, and I feel like my manager is more of a friend than anything else. We talk about our personal lives, and I feel like it's hard to be completely honest with her when she's so casual with me. I don't want to lose our friendship, but I also need to be able to talk honestly with someone who has the power to help me grow professionally. Is there a way to have both?

Any book recommendations for grieving the death of an estranged parent?

Hi! Have any here gone the natural cycle IVF route? What was your experience like? Did you have success in growing your family this way? Would you recommend it to others?

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

How do you manage a long distance relationship? I got engaged 3 months ago and my fiancé and I live in different cities. I just can’t stop thinking about her and feel horrible there on.

My mother in law is dying of cancer but is also a toxic person. My husband has mixed feelings around letting her dump all of her emotions that should be handled with a therapist on him. Beyond this,

How long did you date your SO before moving in with them?

My friend just got out of a relationship and hooked up with his ex's best friend a week later. They're now dating and seeing each other everyday.
I couldn't help but feel like this wasn't an appropriate thing to do for both parties. He also revealed that he cheated on his past exes.

I'm naturally feeling a bit weary of his character and questioning whether this is a friend I want to keep close in my life. Perhaps I'm being too judgmental?

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

Any Porsche consulting friends out there?

How many married professionals with young families are just sticking it out “for the kids”? Marriage is very dead and has been for a while. Young kids 4 and 1. My wife and I don’t fight, but share 0 interests outside of the kids and can’t stand to be around each other. I’m so ready to leave… I just can’t bear the thought of doing it to my children even though another part of me feels like wife and I would both be better parents if our lives were separate. Anyone else done a similar analysis?

Would you recommend Sedona during Christmas or San Diego during Christmas with a 1.5 year old? Entertainment, safety, meaningful experience-focused.

Sedona will be much colder, possibly snowing/icy and will be hiking, hot tub, enjoying the scenery focused. San Diego will be beach, enjoying scenery focused. Both Airbnb options look beautiful. Will also have 60 year old grandparents joining

So who here visited the Chicago Yacht Club at Open House Chicago and decided they wanted to grow up to be an old white guy? 🙋🏻

How do you balance your social life with work? I feel like all my non-law friends are out doing shit every night and living it up on the weekends and I just can't. I'm either working or I'm tired from working. How can I set better boundaries about working outside of work, and where do y'all get the motivation to be outside after work 😭

My fiance is working on Axis bank in west bengal. I live in Bangalore. Our marriage is on December end. she will be shifting to Bangalore on January and has sent am email for transfer to Bangalore few times back. BUT not getting any positive response and even no one is replying to her emai.
Looking for suggestions here....

4 year-old pinches kids ears to the point of bleeding/laughs when they cry. We have tried everything; time out, safe space, replacement behaviors, telling him to touch gentle. At my wits end!!!

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

Is step sibling relations incest to you?

My GF and I are dating for 2.5 yrs , She met an office colleague (he has a GF) recently who she initiated a friendship with. I feel that they interact a lot and I'm a little worried of her getting too close to him. A day ago she asked him for lunch and they were out for almost 4-5 hrs. When I expressed how I felt she keeps saying there's nothing going on. I feel that when start to get emotionally close to some other guy than SO then it's not a good sign in relationship. Am I overthinking? contd.

Hi i lost majority of my money in the stock market. I married and promised my family that I will not make the mistake I made 7 years ago. Gambling. Is this an addiction I have. I keep selling stocks and taking loses buying other stock hoping it will recover but never did and sell again taking loses and buy again. It now sink in to me. I borrow personal loan hoping that the market will do k and I pay it back but I even lost that. I can't stop crying that I hurt the one I love the most my family.

Does anyone want to buy a MacBook Pro 13inch with touchbar from 2017? Like new condition. 8Gb ram, 256gb SSD, very lightly used battery

I know I will get hated by saying this. Do you think gay pride events are portraying a bad image about our community to public? (Drugs, sexual, inappropriate clothes, and sometimes like strip clubs- some parts). I know it is right to present us but I just feel it is not the right way to show who we are. I wish the pride where everybody can connect in a more friendly way (outdoor game- team work, dance, drink something not too sexual.) there are some good parts of pride tho. Any opinions?

Hi Fishes,

I have 1.6 years of experience in Java, Spring Boot, Angular, Microservices.

If I'm planning to switch how much CTC can I ask for?

Current CTC - 5.8LPA

Hey folks, I’m about a year into my new SE career and looking to continue to invest in professional skills. I’ve obviously been thrown into the fire learning the sales side of things, but what areas (technical skills, certs, books, etc.) you all would recommend I look to invest in? I’ve been looking at some beginner coding boot camps and scrum product owner certs, but interested in what you all have done to further advance your career

Hi Fishes,

Does Deloitte send starting kit with their goodies? Lately, I've been seeing a lot of these posts on LinkedIn and wondering if they send it to all new joiners or is random.

I am an associate project manager at a top agency and know I am severely underpaid. But Can I get a range of what I should be paid?

BigLaw M&A: what do you consider to be “big deal” vs a small and medium deal? For example, what do you consider a $150M deal?

Anyone from the states did a deployment here through work? Any advise on how to go about it?

Hi Fishes,

I got an offer for 14LPA (yoe 3.9)in Bosch. And the level is 51.

Can someone tell me if the level 51 is okay for 4yoe , or should I ask for level 52?

Hi Sharks,

Has any of you attended interview with ServiceNow company? I am shortlisted for second round, want to know what to expect in 2nd round and what to prepare.

How many years into your career did you start to feel jaded about the industry? I only have 4 years under my belt and still believe it’s fun and challenging, but I see so much negativity on here.

I got dotnet lead oppertunity in luxoft banglore as remote from chennai,
Is luxoft has job safety? Anyone work there here?

How do I effectively utilize my special ed ea?

Am I the only social worker/therapist who doesn’t work well with being assigned to do last minute paperwork? I’m a very organized person, both personally and professionally and this has been challenging for me in a professional setting. How would you present this to your supervisor who continues to not understand? Any feedback is appreciated 😊

What are the projects available at wipro gurgaon Location?

Thoughts on kindly asking your bridesmaids to please not give a gift? I am over the moon excited that my bridesmaids will be celebrating me and traveling for the wedding and bachelorette. I really do not want a gift from them at the wedding. Full disclosure, my fiancé and I have great paying jobs and my bridesmaids are grad students, artists, and teachers. How would you frame this? Even if they were millionaires I would not want a gift, but I don’t want it taken the wrong way.

For those who have already had their weddings, what advice do you have? Anything you could change?

Any recommendations for good videographers in NYC/Tri-State? A lot of the affordable ones I find make the cheesiest videos. I’ve certainly found some good ones but very expensive. I know you get what you pay for, but there has to be someone reasonably priced out there that delivers quality work. I am splurging on the photographer so this would just be an extra.

If you have a lace wedding dress, would you get a lace veil or a beaded one? It's been hard trying to find similar/exact lace.

I thought I set some boundaries with my wedding since my fiancé and I are paying for everything. Now I’m getting more comments about why we didn’t invite some long lost cousin or family member… I don’t want to go bridezilla on people but I’m starting to see how it can happen 😂

For those who had Catholic ceremonies.. What kind of shoes did you wear that had bottom soles that looked nice in pics? In other words, shoes with bottoms that don’t look scratched up when you are kneeling at the altar.

Anybody not excited about the wedding? I want to get married to my fiancé but I can’t get excited to pay so much for one day…. I feel bad that I’m not more excited but it’s just so stressful

How much did everyone spend on their wedding planner? We’re planning a Fall wedding in Europe with ~80 people and want a full service planner, have been quoted 9-15K and want to see if this is reasonable! TIA

Anyone do their own bridal makeup? Any advice or thoughts?

What gift did you get your spouse on your wedding day?

Is a hair and makeup trial really necessary? It seems like such a waste of money.

How much did you spend on your wedding? Do you regret it? Also please share the location of your wedding if possible. Thank you!

Anyone have a wedding planner they really enjoyed in the DFW area?

My stepmom threw me a very elaborate bridal shower. My stepsister pitched in and also did a lot of work for it. Bridesmaids helped but didn’t do a ton. What, if anything should I do for my stepmom and stepsister as a showing of gratitude? I don’t want to spend a lot of $$ but definitely want to act quickly and thoughtfully.

Considering getting highlights and/or extensions for my wedding. Is it worth it? Or is it a bad idea to update your hair for the wedding?

Can I do a mother of bride dress appointment the same time after my bride fitting? It'll just be my mom coming to the appointment. Or should I do hers right after I finish my appointment?

Guest list stress 😖😖 how many did y’all invite vs how many came?!

Curious to hear everyone's "expectations" versus "reality" for their wedding day?
There's such an expectation around one's wedding day but not much discussion around how it's different from it

Did you have someone doing hair/makeup for bridesmaids or did you have them do their own? And were you glad you made the decision you did? I’ve been in weddings both ways and trying to decide what I want to do