I have a paired partner as my mentor but she clearly doesn’t have anything in common with me (she is white and likes another white associate who started the same time with me). I found it’s hard to have meaningful conversations with her during the scheduled mentorship calls. She only asks about my work and is picky about what I said. She goes to the other white associate to chat regularly and barely talks to me outside of our scheduled call. Any tips on how to improve my relationship with her?

I have a Deputy CISO who constantly instructs us to not go to HR with top level compliance issues (because JP Morgan Chase frowned upon it). But these issues are pervasive to tone at the top and could cause non compliance. What should I do?

New to Chicago - how do I find new friends here?

Parents - do any of you truly regret having kids?

Anyone here want to be a friend can ping me..

I have a para/assistant teacher that just wants to argue over everything. “You’re the teacher, why do I have to assess the children during break out rooms?” We have 8 kids, and I am only asking her to do 3! The other para is doing 3 and I and doing 2 with IEPs!!! How am I supposed to handle this in a professional manner virtually? Plus she is frustrated b/c o can’t explain everything. I keep telling her it’s all new to me too. Grace is not a word in her vocab. And I am feeling graceless.

Stopped a fwb situation. But staying away is so hard. 😔

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 8 months now. We talk every single day online and recently I went to visit her for around a month. It was great and it seemed like the relationship was stronger than ever. But one week back after visiting her, I felt a strange detachment from her and our conversation topic got repetitive and stale quick. Any advice?

In small companies (especially startups), where HR may not really exist or the HR person may be the main violator, how do you deal with inappropriate behavior. If a person has been there a long time and is "too important to fire" how do you handle them?

At a startup I left because of this, my boss had been there since day 1. He was a nightmare. The last straw was when he took out his anger at a home issue on me and made fun of me for being upset. HR told me they couldn't do anything about him.

Have an interview with a growth stage startup, what should I wear for a virtual interview ?

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

What's the best way to be supportive of a partner who struggles with addictive tendencies?

Hooked up with a manager form different line of service and now I came to know he is joining my team.

My mother in law is dying of cancer but is also a toxic person. My husband has mixed feelings around letting her dump all of her emotions that should be handled with a therapist on him. Beyond this,

Got added to the client's mailing list so now I get typo-filled emails about "This person is covering as receptionist for 2 days" and "Who needs a mouse pad". ugh, can I unsubscribe?

What to wear for the EY holiday party tomorrow?

Do you shoe check others at the office?

How do you professionally address a noticeable lack of diversity on your team? More than 85% of my team is white or white passing, and of the remaining individuals none are Black, Indigenous, or AAPI.

Has anyone successfully pursued a relationship with someone they met at work? An MD I am really attracted to has been chasing me, but I am nervous about what the repercussions could be if it doesn't work out. Still, it's tempting

Hi friends,

I'm a new joinee in MSFT.

People in my team they don't come with me for breaks. (They blame the timings are different since they sit in crits but i don't think so because they have their own group of friends to go with)

Secondly, when my team members see me in cafeteria we expect they'll sit with us but people here are being rude they directly go and sit with their friends they don't call you to join. ( atleast they could have said they are accompanied)

People behave unpleasant

I prepared a presentation for an interview with a sales leader, it went well and I was offered a final interview with regional manager. The sales leader I interviewed with gave me a bunch of feedback, but said to find out information about tech stack, which I for some reason, didn’t consider. I come to find out that deep, hidden within the website of the hypothetical client, they use the service already. Do I roll into the final interview and play dumb or do i present and then come clean?

Anyone here practicing at the intersection of ESG work and human capital? Pivoting from a human capital -ish role to ESG and looking for advice!

Any thoughts on iCapital?

Why do you enjoy Boston (as opposed to other cities)?

I joined fishbowl a month ago and while I’ve seen a couple contentious debates but I must say I’m pleasantly surprised at how respectfully ppl comment on this app even when disagreeing. Usually anonymity on the internet brings out the absolute worst in ppl; they type things anonymously that they would NEVER say in person smh. But I really haven’t seen horrible comments here. I wonder what makes this app diff frm others?

I’m graduating in a year. Will be working as a consultant in Chicago. Want to begin real estate investing. Thinking of house hacking. what’s the best way to start REI after graduating?

Best strip clubs in town? Is it weird to hit ‘em alone? Asking for a friend..

How is the GSAP tech allowance taxed? Bonus or income?

What is the “safest” LBGT 🏳️‍🌈 City 🌃, to buy a home/settle down? I have lived in San Francisco, and open to Atlanta or any other cities.

Hey folks, need some help with PF details.

Let's say a person join a company X and then switches to Y after few years. Again switches to company Z after few months. Now the thing is both the previous employers provided Pf but the new company Z which is still growing doesn't have a pf contribution since it is starting out in india. What would happen to existing PF accounts if not withdrawn , will it earn interest? What would i need to do as an employee? Any timelines to follow?

Hi - what are the top renewable energy developers and IPPs in the middle east? I am looking to move to a project finance role in the Middle East and looking to understand the landscape.

I have left CG 18th of last month, how many days they typically take for full and final settlement?

How do you professionally address a noticeable lack of diversity on your team? More than 85% of my team is white or white passing, and of the remaining individuals none are Black, Indigenous, or AAPI.

What do most people invest in for their Roth IRA portfolio? I’ve heard target funds and ETF’s..which one is better?

Nothing worse than an analyst who thinks they know everything and can't think big picture - neither can you take direction nor do you understand broader context around said comments

how does anyone actually bill 8.5 hours a day?? Even on my most productive days I can only hit 6, 6.5.

Anyone in this bowl based in Central Florida that would like to connect?

I saw that Orrick had an Attorney's of Color retreat in New York. Does anyone work there who can speak on how it was? If not, is there a retreat/coalition/group for Attorney's of Color at your firm?

What album can you listen to with no skips?

I handleda very difficult and convoluted succession for a black family. My client was astute and intelligent. We got along great. His family was difficult. Willfully ignorant.

Part of the succession dealt with clawing back $450,000 in insurance proceeds that a niece fraudulent received from the decedent by making herself the beneficiary on policies. A separate attorney was hired to handle that part before I was hired to handle all other matters, including settling a $500,000 debt with the...

Anybody having to participate in/listen to discussions at work regarding the recent events at the Capitol where your views are in contrast to others in the discussion? If so, how have you handled this?

What's your typical work day look like? Where do you work/what size firm do you work at?

Thinking of pivoting from insurance defense to something more meaningful and (dare I say it) with more work life balance. Currently in my 7th year of practice and am just tired of ID. Anyone make the transition? Any advice?

Ketanji did not come to play! Came out of the gate ready to fight and turn these racist arguments on their heads. The way she was dropping 14th Amendment bombs on that man made me so happy. And this is only her first day. I just hope they protect her well.

I feel like I'm going through really bad imposter syndrome, How do you manage it ?

With all that is going on, has anyone seen any positive changes in their organization?

Any one here based out in the Middle East? If so, what's your experience. Would you recommend it. I am 32F - African Descent planning to relocate to the UAE.

How do I professionally decline a second interview? I know for sure I don’t want to work at the firm.

Anyone else sickened by Amy’s use of her black kids as props? You didn’t have to tell us that those two black kids were adopted, but way to make them feel different.

What are the chances of getting a lower offer because you're POC applying at a fairly large law firm? Not big law or anything but still. Friend and I both got offers, came out of the same school and have very similar internship experience. He's white and I'm not, his offer is significantly higher. How low is low enough to walk away?

LA fish: Any ideas for Pro Bono assistance for nonprofit community/cultural orgs? A family member recently joined the board of a nonprofit community/cultural org and is looking for counsel. There are no active legal issues, but they’re just trying to get affairs in order and have systems in place in case any do arise. I’m unable to represent them myself due to my work and lack of experience, and I’m unfamiliar with potential resources. Thank you!

Anyone feel like your job sees you as "one of the good ones?" It hasn't explicitly been said, but I'm one of the only Black attorneys at the firm and I think my white colleagues and partners see me as an example of how Black folks "should be" cause I mind my business. Basically I feel like a token, and I don't know how to shift that idea while staying professional.