I have a senior who’s been an absolute asshole to me over the past week. In full truth I have made one mistake that would cost him extra time. However, on three other occasions he has layed into me with comments that were either wrong, or just personal preference things. I am going to say something to my manager that I will most likely be looking for new jobs soon. Is this too egotistical of me? Does it seem like I’m trying to get an apology and am acting rash or does it seem reasonable

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I wouldn’t tell your manager that you’re looking for a new job until you’ve secured something unless you like being unemployed.

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If you're comfortable about telling the manager the senior's behavior, then yes, but I agree with not saying that you’re looking to leave

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Update: essentially my boss told me he would reach out to get it resolved. Senior reached out and essentially said I should take everything as a learning point and take it on the chin. Everyone has been ripped before. Lol

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Take this as a learning point that maybe you shouldn’t have gone over his head and complained.

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Yea, I would recommend to document this with HR. I have been bullied and ripped etc .. took it to 1:1 inti the rooms … all was resolved eventually.. but to this day .. one thing I would do different I would document with HR. There is whole feedback system in place that I was surprised to learn about later .. you should absolutely use it for your own sanity and “support network “ when you go through these experiences… and you never know … documented facts might be handy ..

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Normalize telling your boss to stop being rude

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You should : 1. Be sure your judgements about the behavior is right; 2. Get a room for 1 on 1 layout this problem in a constructive way to address the issue; 3. If nothing changes or gets worse, include HR. There are degrees of complaints etc … 4. Well, after all - if there is no good prospect at this job etc … look to change departments or move companies. Only tell your manager when you have an offer in your hands ( nothing personal: business preferences and it will give you a peace of mind ( less complications) just to agree and keep good relationship to an extend that is possible till you move on)

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Document document document

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They might just be having a bad week.

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