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I don't think that you feel the same way about your kids as they age, regardless of the number of kids. When they are <1, they are so helpless (and there are a bunch of hormonal changes triggered) that the feelings can be overwhelming. As they age and grow, they need to separate and become more informed, which changes the way you feel. You don't love them less but it is different.
That being said, I had two kids. I felt the same about the second kid when she was <1 as I did about the first. I think that new baby feeling is one of the reasons people have a second.
I will put in a plug. There is something about that close sibling relationship that is unique and valuable. I am very glad my daughters have a sister.
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Interested to hear thoughts here. I was team two kids then after our one (she’s 2.5 now), I’m just very happy with where we are. This is probably it for us and that is totally fine and fulfilling for us. But door isn’t closed hence why I’m interested to see the thoughts.
It is twice the love. Agree with SD1, when you have another newborn you remember how special that feeling is.
My older daughter is almost 3 but when she does something cute to her new (<2 months) little sister it makes my heart swell. Seeing them together is wonderful and I can’t wait to see that develop.
Also, with baby number 2 it is less of a jump from 1 to 2 than 0 to 1. It is tiring, of course, but you know what you are doing with a newborn so less worrying about if they are ok all the time. I’d say I’m enjoying the newborn phase more this time as I feel like I am better at it.
A bit cheesy, but it's a like a growth mindset: the pie gets bigger vs each kid taking a slice. That said, I do feel that my time is more split, which doesn't feel great.
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Two kids are definitely a lot more work. You give up on whatever personal time you had with one. But once you meet the second you can’t imagine life without them.
In all honesty, I often wonder if we didn’t have the second, life would be a lot easier, but knowing that my girls will always have each other makes it worth the effort.