I will not lie; the idea of having kids sounds terrible. I already do not particularly like kids, but I already have to balance my girlfriend, big law, and playing hard on the weekend. I am 27, so I know circumstances change but what if I never want to let go of the freedom?

35M. Friend zoned after one date. What am I doing wrong? I met her at a baby shower. We talked/text regular for about a month or so because I was traveling for work. Finally went on a date about two weeks ago, a week after I told her I like her and said she never thought about us being romantic. Today I got the official friend zoned text.

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

Anyone here who has had an ectopic and a tube removal? Could you share your experiences about getting pregnant after the removal? 35F.

Just heard that my district will have classroom and live-recording learning. I’m thankful because I now can feed my family, my newborn and a recent-sponsored wife! I’m scared because I’m almost 50 and I’m afraid I might catch the virus and die leaving behind my 1 month baby and a wife who is not legal in the state yet! The USCIS or Trump’s dept. thinks she’s not good enough to be in the US!! We applied for green card and SS card since August 2019!

I don't know about you, but this is the longest my husband and I have gone without getting into a argument. Forced to be together forces us to behave?

For those that are the children of immigrants or are an immigrant themselves-what’s the greatest lesson that you’ve learned from your upbringing/family that you now apply to your career & life?

Hi Friends,
I have seen that people with govt. job are getting married easily with lots of dowry.

And here I am with 20+ LPA but still not getting any good matches for marriage.

Why such bhedbhav 😭

Need advice and help.

I have realized I grew up in a household where my dad did not treat my mom as an equal. He belittles her, is rude and convinced his way is the only way.

It is painful to say, but some of this shows up in me and in my relationship. I am starting to catch myself, and it to me seems to be more of a reaction than anythjng that is ever intentional.

Wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar, and any success in making changes besides therapy. Cont. in comments

I am planning to start IUI cycle this summer and have booked Pfizer vaccine mid April. Two questions (note I recently recovered from Covid so have antibodies)

1) Have unverified maybe misconception that vaccines affect fertility. Any opinions on this? My developing country family is freaking out and suggesting I vaccinate after I get pregnant.

2) My donor is fully vaccinated and did Pfizer, another rumor that it’s better that parents have same vaccine? Is this true?

Anyone managed to fly their parents down from India to US off late? Cousin’s pregnant, trying to book tickets for early Dec. trying to understand how entry here is playing out here. I know Qatar and Emirates aren’t operational yet for flights from India to US.

How do you approach a stinky middle school kid or their parents with hygiene suggestions? I don’t know how to politely tell anyone that they smell bad.

Stupid Question- We have been thinking for IVF and trying to understand with this process, is there any difference in the health and life of the child as compared to a child born without IVF. I did ask this with our doctor and he said casually its all same. This is not to question any doctor but just to really understand what is going to be different with the kid. This is not very old technology and not much studies as well.

Fish I need some help and advice. I fell off the wagon last weekend (sober two years and change with alc) and I cheated on my SO of three years. We live together and she has been by my side through

I on L1 visa which is expiring on Dec 1. My wife is on L2 and currently pregnant and due on Dec 19. My company has filed for an extension in August for me and thinks that there will be no decision until early next year. If my visa extension gets denied before December 1, does it mean that we cannot deliver our child in US? What is the norms for losing health coverage - do I lose it immediately?

Does anyone know if we can reimburse expenses for items listed in Wageworks while on maternity?

I know we cannot expense phone/internet/ commuter benefit as I am not actively doing work.

However, for other items that fall under wage works reimbursement, I couldn’t find anything in writing yet.

Hello kindergarten teachers I have a question for those in the New York area. I have a son going into kindergarten in a few days. My question is what knowledge is he expected to walk in knowing?

Unsure if my bf and I are incompatible or if I’m not compromising enough. How do you know the difference? He has so many great qualities that I love but also lacks some qualities that I would like to have but idk if I would be giving up on someone that is great for little things.

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

F*****-up story…please be constructive (but also open & direct)
With my wife for 14 years, 2 kids under 8y - both under a lot of pressure bc Covid/work/private life/… and have been (unconsciously) running away from our couple not working “since a long time” (dixit my wife). We want to try and fix it, but I also met someone new (not sure if she would even want me) and wondering if it’s worth fixing it (since we are trying/running/avoiding it for years) - just worried about the kids…any advice

Looking for some encouragement. Has anyone here received an overall negative performance review or has been put on a development/performance plan and was able to turn things around for the better?

Hey guys,
Whats the compensation for walmart global tech software engineer 3 for nyc region

Does anyone know what’s the salary for a Referral Specialist I/ Program coordinator I at Centene?

I lead our SOC practice for a US mid tier cpa/consulting firm. I've been losing a lot of deals due to lower cost / boutique vendors who are partnered with these SOC automation platforms (Vanta, Laika, etc.). Have any of you used these tools for the audit and what has your experience been like? Thanks

Hey y'all, kind of a two part question:
1. I enjoy the people management more than individual contributor stuff. What career paths do you see in our industry for people who are managing support engineering teams?
2. What certifications are valued today? Seems like being a AWS Cloud Practitioner is a good general one, but are there others that stand out?

Those actively interviewing, where are you trying go?

Ever turned down a job bc of the commute?

Strategy& vs. EY-Parthenon vs LEK? Pros and cons

Klick - would you go? Why or why not?

I am working as a QA Automation Engineer with 6.6 YOE ,got selected for Nagaro conpany for 19 lpa .How much package i can expect from other companies

A first for me, after 1.6 million miles. Thankful for a delay. The delay on the connector saved me a night at ord Hilton after the ludicrous delay on the first leg.t. Truly grateful united

What clients are Ogilvy working on these days?

Hey Fishes,
I got a WhatsApp verification for my application, saying Infosys would like to take it further give us confirmation can anyone tell me how much time it takes to get interview call

Does someone have a good punch list of things to do before giving notice at a firm?

Do you think partners in law firms have too much power and autonomy? eg. the power to refuse leave, to do your annual appraisal, to make you work while on leave, to overwork people, to manage the team on their on terms etc. Is this power bad or good for the firm and the team overall?

Related question - Do you think the HR in law firms are just there for show since the partners have a lot of power and autonomy?

Question for funds folks, since no one is around to answer any questions and I can't seem to find this answer anywhere. Why can't a placement agent combine or integrate the offering of interests in the sponsor's fund with the contemporaneous offering of interests in another fund? Is it based on reputational risk or from a sales perspective in case someone rejects both funds, any other issues? Thanks!

Started at firm in second week of March and am at 1,700 right now, on pace for 2,000+. M&A 7th year. Who else is this busy? Keep reading M&A down across the board, but not feeling it here…

Obviously love the job security, but am at lockstep bonus firm and pretty sure at this point bonus will be on base scale last year, so kinda bummed about that.

Beginning to consider going in house (4th, corp) - I really haven’t thought about what I want, partly because I’m not sure what’s out there/attainable. Is it a bad idea to start by applying to a couple positions that interest me and seeing where that gets me? I’ll of course prep for the interviews but am afraid to burn potential bridges if I ultimately decline because I’m still figuring things out.

Anyone else who works with nonprinting characters turned on ever open up a doc and wonder wtf the person who drafted it was doing? What is so hard about formatting?! 🤯

Ever get so bored that it feels exhausting to do work, even a simple task?

When do you switch from first-year to second-year at your firm in terms of salary - at the end of the firm’s fiscal year or January 1? For context, my firm’s fiscal year ends in November and the annual billing requirements restart then.

Joining GT…Should I choose a company phone or transfer my phone to GTs plan?

Fish, I trust your advice. Anyone have leads or recruiter recs for SF biglaw litigation? Looking to lateral as a to-be second year, mostly antitrust/white collar.

I’m have a new theory about why juniors always feel like idiots and wanted to see if anyone else thinks this makes sense. I’m a third year, and am the most junior person all of my teams (generally me, a senior or two, and a partner or two), and I always feel like I’m messing something up. Is this just because I never get to work with other juniors and don’t see the mistakes they make, and that it’s relatively normal? And FWIW I went to HYS and I’ve had a clerkship so it’s not like I’m not smart

From a vault ranking perspective, is it safe to assume V100 is all sweatshop big law? Reason I ask is because I want to lateral but not to a gunning big law firm — want to stay in big law but not at the ones at the top of the food chain like I am now. Want some sort of work life balance and wondering if the “lower ranked” big law firms offer this? Could just be my fantasy though…

Just joined a firm where they had appeared to be expanding their corporate group and kept seniors fairly happy. I come on my first day and find out those seniors have left for v10 firms, leaving me much closer to the fire than I expected. I can’t seem to shake this really uneasy feeling that I’m about to be demolished.. Should I trek along as normal or keep my ear to the ground for another move...

Give me the strength to set a boundary today and do something fun instead of waiting by my computer for emails

Has your firm restored your pay? Is it worth considering jumping to another firm that is going to pay you what you’re worth? Don’t know about the rest of you, by my student loan interest rates aren’t getting any lower.

What does it mean if there’s a NEP at the firm who’s been there for a long time (20+ years), but never got promoted to EP? Never held leadership roles too. Does it usually mean EPs does not like the NEP enough to get promoted?

The NEP has a book of business, though no idea how much it brings in.

I’ve made it 5+ years in a NY M&A practice and have consistent exceeding expectations reviews. I’ve had a few mental breakdowns because of work during this time, but thankfully made it through. I’ve been in a near constant depressive/anxious state for family reasons for the last year and half, and am soon having my first kid. I’m scared shitless that I’ll spiral out of control both at work and at home if something doesn’t change soon. Any suggestions on how to keep this job and keep it together?

Any insight into Fenwick’s tech trans practice? Are they still hiring fully remote associates?

I wish I had even a tiny fraction of the energy I had when I first started this job

It has been a month since I have left my prior firm. My former co-workers continue to reach out to ask about questions about matters/assignment that I worked on while I was at my prior firm. This information they could readily find themselves (e.g., which ancillaries are open w/ the client). How do I politely tell them to leave me alone?