I'll be 40 in five short years. I still feel like late 20s in my mind. I feel like a kid who just got into college. I feel like I just completed my first job interview. It's almost two decades since? Life is slipping away. Here I am chasing weekends, dreading every weekday hoping not to drop anything living the perfect work life and being successful in my tiny bubble. I lost my father at his 54th. That gives me less than 20.

What's happening to me? What's the point of my life?

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There is no point to life man. We are here now and won’t be someday.

Do what makes you happy for your time here. Make the most of it and try to leave the world slightly better than you found it.

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If it matters. I’m the same age as you albeit fortunate enough to still have both parents.

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No purpose.
But I find that the tiny sparks of joy when you find on your way, whether it’s meaningful connection with people, a good bite of food, beauty nature that makes you tear up…all of those bits and pieces make you feel like life is worth it.

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Find a purpose- for me it is family and faith

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The point of life for anyone is to love God and be loved by God. Everything falls short of eternity and nothing will satisfy like a relationship with your creator and the giver of purpose. If you can't find the point or the reason and no amount of good things fully satisfy, I suggest looking there. It's the only point or purpose I have ever found.

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In my worldview, that is the case. If you do not share that worldview, that's your prerogative.

You don't see me up in arms over people saying that life is pointless (also not specifying that they speak for themselves). I would hope that as functional adults we can all encounter people of varying beliefs and worldviews and understand that each person speaks for themselves and is entitled to their own beliefs. People expressing their beliefs does not equate to forcing them on you simply because you came across them.

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OP there's a big difference between 35 and 40, please don't forget that

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I can't even put into words how much my life changed between 30 and 40. I'm 42 now and much happier 💜 hang in there and take it day by day.

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There is no point. Just enjoy every moment. Carpe diem!

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Existential crisis gang. Where you at? Feeling the same way and I am the same age

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