I’m doing a presentation on coming out in the workplace and creating an environment that champions diversity. What are best practices by your coworkers that have helped you or you have observed?

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To come out to clients, I team up with a straight coworker and have them ask me about my weekend in front of the client during first or second week onsite. I drop a low key reference to my boyfriend somehow, and prep the coworker to respond to it like it’s a normal thing and nothing out of the ordinary. It sets the tone that a) I’m gay and b) it’s not a big deal

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Make it a panel instead of a presentation if possible? Too much to list

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Also curious about this. How would you pitch the presentation such that it’s suitable for straight allies as well?

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