I’m getting married this year and my SO has some family drama which I’m not used to as I love my family deeply. His brothers wife has always been a see you next Tuesday. I’ve only met her twice and she was frosty at best, and made a lot of digs at my fiancé.

His bro informed us yesterday that she doesn’t want to come to our wedding. Not that she can’t, she just doesn’t want to, and doesn’t want their kids to come either.

I think it’s so rude and I’m really angry about it. I don’t know...

How many couples here where the husband/male SO is younger than the wife/female SO? And what if the age difference.
To start..I'm 34 and wife is 36.

Struggling with a friendship that has become toxic & fills me with anxiety. various factors have caused us to drift but it feels like nothing I say or do now is right. The issues seem to really come to a head for one when she is drunk, using it to air grievances with me. When sober she doesn’t feel like talking about it. It feels like we are pretending to be best friends because of history but the substance isn’t there and I just want out of it. Can anyone offer advice?

I got into a small argument with my bf about our future and he said something along the lines that he thinks I don’t want this instead I want to want this. We have resolved the core issue which was mainly a misunderstanding but thinking back at it I think he’s right. I do very often feel like i want to want this because he loves me so much but I am not sure I actually want this …

How do I start the divorce process? Do I have to get a lawyer? Help...!

To those with an anxious attachment style and have trust issues due to past childhood trauma you’re still healing from: How do you keep yourself from thinking your significant other is going to cheat on you when she/he goes to a party or out while you’re miles away? I’ve been in therapy to help, and trying to distract myself but my anxiety is keeping it from working and don’t want to put that pressure on him because I’m trying to work on it.

I hate it when people try to bond with me over trauma when their trauma is that they fight a lot with their spouse or they didn’t get the promotion they wanted. How is that staring death in the face??

Anyone go to concerts? None of my friends like classical music, and those that used to play don't listen anymore.

I miss nerding out and discussing music before a concert 😭

Last night I went over to my friends house (she has 2 kids, 2 and 4 yo). She and her husband were asking me about my pregnancy and planning. And were asking what I’ve prepped to date. I’m only 13w2 days so I think it’s way to early for buying stuff, but I did mention we hired a baby nurse for when the baby comes. My friend completely berated me, short of calling me a bad mom already, saying “what is she going to do all day? Don’t you want to bond with your child?”. I’m so upset by this.

Does anyone know any ISB couples?
(Preferably those who have graduated in 2017 or before)
Please DM.

Important question! Any strategies for getting out of work zoom happy hours? Other than ignoring requests and not showing up, which has been my MO so far. But it’s getting a bit awkward.

Joining ACN and thinking about moving to DC. Thing is I don’t know a soul there. I’ll be traveling so worried about making friends. For people that made the same move, how’s your exp been? cont’d..

I secretly and sometimes loudly pitty women and men who move out of their parents home to live with a SO. I think it's important for people to live alone before moving in with a SO. It teaches you a lot about yourself.

Spending a weekend with my fiancé’s family out of town and quite literally my future FIL burps out loud 10x a day with no shame and his mom is a narcissistic monster in law just have no clue how these bizarre ppl created such a lovely person in my fiancé. Don’t need advice, just want to bitch. Can anyone relate??

Salaam. 26 M. Houston. My hobbies are traveling, watching sports, and hanging out with friends. Hope to get married this year, ان شاء الله.

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

I have added a daily routine of giving my wife of foot rub when we unwind at the end of the day, and it has been awesome for our marriage. It’s an easy way to be supportive and take care of someone who takes care of you, and it’s a great way to unwind for me because it requires just the right amount of engagement to be present. I take the time to listen empathetically to my wife’s day and just be there for her. It only took me about 15 minutes to learn some great and easy techniques on YouTube!

Midlife career change into teaching, because I love language and really get a lot from seeing teens grow into themselves... but I just don't know if I can keep up.

51 yo/ 3kids/ 5a-11p

How do you deal with parental guilt when you have to miss things? When my child was a baby it wasn't as big of a deal as long as I was around for the big stuff and was pulling my weight parent wise. Now that they're 4+ everything is big stuff, and every time I can't be there it really affects them. I know being successful in my career will set them up for the future, but it feels like I'm letting them down right now.

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

Top spots for bolognese in Boston? Ideally holes in the wall

How many rounds of interview are there in Gartner , I had two rounds completed, and what is the salary of 7.5 yrs exp in Gartner with role of senior software engineer

Hi fishes, need to know how is garner in terms of paying out annual bonus amount is it 100% payout or +- also please help me the hierarchy levels of gartner

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

I have added a daily routine of giving my wife of foot rub when we unwind at the end of the day, and it has been awesome for our marriage. It’s an easy way to be supportive and take care of someone who takes care of you, and it’s a great way to unwind for me because it requires just the right amount of engagement to be present. I take the time to listen empathetically to my wife’s day and just be there for her. It only took me about 15 minutes to learn some great and easy techniques on YouTube!

Hey fishes,

Help me to choose out of the below .
1) U.S Onsite from current company with 74k
2) Offer from EY, TCS with 13lpa package

YoE : 4.5
Tech stack : Data science, Python (1yr)
Current CTC: 5.5 lpa

Hi
Is there any opening in IBM for Oracle apps technical.
Looking for job change

What are the best agencies ( travel) for RN with one year of CVICU experience? Thank you

Anyone on pros and cons of A&M PEPI group?

Hi,
Joining SAP labs, Bengaluru on 8th of August.
Looking for a share of accommodation. Female preferred.
Thank you..

Anyone else just absolutely despise Kryterion and their service reps? They are so rude and I just can’t stand it

Hi all, what’s a good career path after consulting? Where would you all go as your next step?

Why does Newark close tsa pre lanes? Terrible

Looking for new opportunities in NYC. Want to be in a place where the idea and creative is in focus. A place that encourage proactive ideas would be great. Smaller agencies seem interesting.

How do you do weekly therapy while working full time? I'm looking to start and have a potential reoccurring evening appointment, but it would still require me to leave the office by 5 once a week.

I burned out months ago and now I’m just in a rut. How do I fix this?

Exhausted by entitled clients that are just plain nasty. Is it just me or are clients everywhere getting more demanding and treating their agencies worse?

I want to advance in my career, but I have no energy to do anything when I get home, even if it's an early day.

(cont)

I get so anxious when I have to give my availability for an interview before I start a new freelance job.

Weekends are really tough when you're unemployed and job searching.

Struggling with identity now that I’ve finally, truly accepted depression/anxiety are medical conditions I need meds for. I love who I am on meds, but I hate feeling like that isn’t “the real me."

There’s no reason you have to put up with a job you hate. I spent many years working in a toxic environment with a boss who gossiped and lead through fear. He wasn’t really much of a leader but basically a foreman. And he could make my existence miserable. I admit that it wasn’t easy to find another job but the bottom line is: trust your guts. If you feel something is wrong it’s because it probably is. Don’t second guess yourself. Look for options and and fight for your mental health.

Struggling with ADHD, anxiety and depression and my therapist suggested I might benefit from medication. Anyone with Blue Cross Blue Shield in nyc recommend their psychiatrist?

I need help. I'm dealing with multiple losses in the same week and having a hard time... I took some time off from work but I have no motivation to do anything. I don't want to go back to work and don't care about my work right now. I want to quit but I don't want to make a rash decision but need a long break. It's also not fair to my team that I can't give it my 100%. What can I do?

My agency is “casual”, but recently I’ve been getting legit picked on for my work attire. No inappropriate parts of me are exposed. I wear jeans&a t shirt or leggings&a t shirt every day (cont).

Ever had one of those days where everything is just making you cringe so bad, to the point all you want to do is sit on the ground and cry?

Today is one of those days, and even when I know things will get better or "this too shall pass", I am sad, I can't enjoy whatever good there is...I feel powerless.

Have you felt like the industry (including job searching) left you contempt or jaded to the point, you’ve started turning into a nihilist?

Friendly reminder that depression is a protected disability. File paperwork with your company and they legally cannot destroy your health by overworking you.

I started a new job recently and then had my PTSD seriously triggered, plus a panic attack. Felt so on edge and low on emotional resources for over a week that I wasn’t myself and apparently really rubbed a few people the wrong way so I was called in for a talking to 😣. I let people know there were some personal things going on, but didn’t mention the PTSD—very unsure if that’s something to share, or if I’d be judged for it or... I don’t even know. Has anyone else dealt with PTSD and had it impact them at work, and how did you handle it?

If I had a dollar for every time my boss screamed “UGH C’MON” at his computer... It’d be enough to buy myself the medical coverage my company doesn’t provide. 🙃

I live alone and work for myself. Having horrible productivity issues right now. Its a cycle of procrastination and shame. Horrible mindset to have while trying to “create”. Working out hasn’t helped

I'm pretty sure I've been suffering from ADHD my entire life. As a POC, admitting anything that remotely sounds like a mental disease wasn't an option. Now that I'm a growntheir 35 year old man...