I’m so tired. Every day is a battle I’m fighting just to not pick up the phone and beg for them back in my life (if I felt like it’d work I would, but I know I’ll never get what I want). I hate myself, I can be lying in someone else’s bed but all my thoughts are with them, and I’m secretly shedding tears wishing I can replace those memories and feelings with something or someone else, anything else to push it down.

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I feel ya. I think about my ex all the time… and it’s been 4 months… I wake up and think about her… I go to bed and I think about her… it is none stop… I don’t know how to stop thinking about her

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I think start by giving yourself grace and patience. Hating yourself is OK to feel briefly. Feel it and let it pass. Feelings are feelings and not real. Work on taking care of yourself and doing the things you enjoy. Find balance and get to know you again! And you’re healing so it’s really Ok to nap and sleep 8/9 hours. Try the Calm app too! You aren’t alone. Crying is super healthy and cathartic. Let them out, where ever you are.

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Sorry to hear about this , I am going through the same type of trauma in my life , it will pass just have some good friends and family around

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How are you doing these days? Hope that since some time has passed you’re healing. I’ve been grieving the past year the loss of a parent, but I’ve also gone through heartbreak/divorce in the past. I get out and exercise in nature like hiking trails, the beach, wildlife refuges, and in gym. Also tend to my hobbies helps, and friends help if they’re understanding but I find that getting out and having fun like dancing to live music helps too. What I’ve also done that’s different is quit drinking alcohol it made the grief worse. It’s better to feel and it and heal and find tools to cope than to stuff it.

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